Does real happiness exist

[Mumofboys456]

My little boy said to me yesterday "you're never really happy" it has hit me hard because he is right but I don't know why and I don't know what to do about it. I don't seem to find enjoyment in anything! I don't want them to see me as miserable.

I googled and this was the first entry:

www.nib.com.au/the-checkup/importance-of-happiness-chemicals (Safe to click.)

How old are you?

If it’s not one of the above chemical imbalances, then hormones and vitamins / minerals would be the next things to have checked, I guess. Purely on the basis that you haven’t identified anything specifically situational - exhaustion, money, partner, family, health, living environment, recent bereavement, horrible job or lack of job - that’s lowering your mood.

I’m sure the cause is findable and probably solvable.

If you can't find enjoyment in anything, have you considered you might be depressed?

But surely the important question is ‘what’s causing the depression?’.

For some reason I have ended up with two threads. My relationship isn't great and I did want to get a job but due to circumstances with family it wouldn't work. I don't think that's the issue though.

It’s difficult to say from your OP but I do think there is this myth that is you are not happy than you are depressed.

If life is monotonous and your work/relationships are unrewarding then of course you won’t be dancing with delight.

The cliched response to that is to start to do more things you take pleasure in, things for you.

Everyday do the following

Mediate
Lavender under pillow
Humidifier
Incense
3 minutes deep breathing
Eat veg and fruit
Drink fruit juice And Camille tea
Read a joke off the internet
Avoid social media and the news
Force yourself to look in the mirror and smile
Force yourself to sing a song
Shower or bath
Going a gym even if you just use the jacuzzi and sauna there
Self help books
Walk walk walk
Talk to a friend Keep the house tidy

I know I said eat and drink well but don't forget to treat yourself to cakes or chocolate or sweets now and then too

And then

Force yourself to do something fun with your child - sing a silly song , have a pillow fight play a game like a staring competition

Try all these things for a bit and see if you feel any better but if not get to the GP and get some counselling/ medications

Everyone struggles from time to time in life

I think people are thinking don't spend any time with my children. Its not that, I have been unhappy for a while and not getting enjoyment from things, such as when I last went on holiday. I don't want my children to see me as unhappy which is why I think its got to me

I have found chakra balancing yoga and good breathing to be immensely helpful with this. There's no downside to trying it.

@Mumofboys456

For some reason I have ended up with two threads. My relationship isn't great and I did want to get a job but due to circumstances with family it wouldn't work. I don't think that's the issue though.

An unhappy relationship and not being able to work if I wanted to would be issues for me.