Dreaming of my ex...

[Passedproblems]

OK, this is weird, but I can't talk to anyone in RL about this. I keep dreaming of my ex, I suppose 'he's the one that got away'. My first real head over heels love. It was years ago. I've moved on, have a lovely husband and lovely children. Why does the ex keep popping into my head.

I suppose what makes it worse is that I have absolutely no contact with him and he's not on my SM. We don't have any mutual friends. I'd like to know how he's getting on, however all I can do is say a little prayer for him. It's been nearly 10 years since I saw him, much much longer since we were together. Does anyone else get this or am I just strange?!

Yes, I dream about all my exes from long-term relationships. I think it’s pretty normal.

Why does the ex keep popping into my head.

Big birthday coming up? Feeling you’ll never experience that first flush of love again? Feeling your freedom for adventures has been curtailed?

You can be happy, content, and nostalgic all at the same time. Have a think as to whether you’re losing yourself. Not saying you are.

I do too. It’s intensely annoying! The relationship ended badly and the dreams ramp up more when there’s a similar feeling of loss in my life, I have realised. So going through the menopause for example.

In the dreams he’s usually being great very nice and very in love with me. It triggers all sorts of shitty feelings but like I say, I think they’re just a metaphor for loss. Anyway, my sympathies OP!

Yes ..we've been apart ( and for good reasons) for over eight years, still get regular dreams where we are getting back together, sometimes can affect me all day with melancholy . Funny how you can miss something you dont want back .

Thank God! It's such a relief that this is quite normal and my dreams aren't trying to tell me something! And this happens to me too, 'sometimes can affect me all day with melancholy'. I think that's the worst bit.

Thanks everyone, I think I'll be able to sleep now, should have posted earlier rather than spending the last couple of hours googling him and every person he knew!

Nightmares for me in my case, horrific.