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To think I need to leave my job

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Humdeehum · 15/11/2021 11:54

I work for my local authority and have had various projects during the last five years I have been there. My most recent has seen me work closely with a senior colleague and her assistant.
I've always gotten along fine with her assistant but in the last few months she seems to have taken on a bit of a Jekyll and Hyde complex with me. One minute she's ok the next I'm being ignored , she will engage in conversation with other members of staff but not me.
Recently sat having lunch, everyone having a conversation when I joined in she literally stopped talking and looked at her phone.
Won't talk to me unless I speak to her and even then it's like getting blood out of a stone.
It's really confusing and upsetting as to my knowledge I've done nothing.
Its caused such an atmosphere that I've been to see my boss and asked to be moved.
Unfortunately she is friendly with the boss , so where I have been moved I'm now out on a limb working alone and not really wanting to be in communal areas ,because as soon as she appears there is an atmosphere.
She has denied any wrong doing ,but I've been told by several colleagues this has been done to them also ,in some cases for years with silent treatment and odd behaviour.
Am I wrong to think I'm going to have to leave as the situation is clearly not going to improve?

OP posts:
Grapewrath · 15/11/2021 11:56

You don’t have to leave, just ignore this childish and ridiculous behaviour and engage with the colleagues you do get on with.
Keep a log of her behaviours for HR though

TotallySuper · 15/11/2021 11:59

YABU you don't need to leave. I'd keep forcing myself on her (not literally) "Hi X how are you today?" Big smile. Try and do it in front of the boss. If she ignores etc then say to the boss "see! What are you going to do about this toxic environment?" Etc.
Get your backbone in place and rise above it OP. Failing my first suggestion just ignore her, talk to others and if she's there being silent and moody just carry on talking. Fuck her.

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