My son started school in September. His teacher has asked for consent for him to have a thrive assessment of his social and emotional needs. When I asked why specifically she thought he needed this assessment she related it to his non-compliance and frustrational outbursts. I'm a bit puzzled - he seems like a regular 4 year old to me at home - but then of course I'm biased and protective and haven't seen his behaviour in the classroom. He doesn't always respond when you ask him to do something but I know he's listening because if you count down from 5 to 1 he sure moves quickly then! I fully acknowledge he likes to do things in his own time and on his own terms which can be both difficult and frustrating. His teacher (who is both lovely and experienced) referred to him as 'quirky' and is no doubt having a hard time! But he's also chatty and caring and kind... She's right in that he does get upset over silly things but so do his 4 year old peers. My best friend is a paediatrician and when I told her about it she seemed equally surprised and reports absolutely no concerns over his development at all. He does have a strong interest in the natural world but we've brought him up that way - I wouldn't say he had a 'fixation'. He displays no problems socially or with eye contact or repetitive behaviour etc. On one hand I feel pressured into signing the consent form because otherwise I'm a bad parent not acting in his best interests but on the other hand it feels like he's being victimised and by signing on the dotted line I'm enabling him to be unfairly scrutinised and dissected. As he's been at the school a mere matter of weeks our feeling (mum and dad) is to ask to defer any assessment for 6 months until he's had more of a chance to settle in to school life and then reconsider the assessment if there are still valid concerns. Would this be reasonable or am I being foolish? Reading about Thrive doesn't really tell me much about what he'll be subjected to or how he'll stand out from his classmates by receiving 'special attention'. Does anyone have any experience they could share? Thank you