To ask about joining a church

[Croesotygwyn]

Anyone else really dislike humans? I know there are many good people but I don’t know any. Everyone I meet is disingenuous, self involved, false and unreliable. I can’t withdraw completely from society as I have children. Do you think joining a church may be a good idea?

Are you religious OP? That would be the main thing to consider when joining a church.

There are humans in churches too. But if you're interested in Christianity it might be a good place to go.

Actually maybe it’s not a good idea, I’m not particularly religious. I do realise there are humans in church I just thought they might be more genuine.

I think you need to get out to join some social groups. A church sounds a good start if you are religious. Not every one is self involved selfish and disingenuous. It sounds like you've had a run of bad luck in the people you've spent time with and need to meet new people in your life somehow - making plans up widen your circle seems a great idea .

It'd be a shame for your DCs if their parent is so anti other people and prone to generalising that everyone has bad intentions . It's unhealthy to end up unintentionally isolating yourself and think so poorly of society based on the actions of a few people that have let you down (if that's what had happened).

The people who go to churches are just the same as people anywhere. They aren't less selfish, false etc. But no harm in giving it a try!

@Whereismumhiding3

I think you need to get out to join some social groups. A church sounds a good start if you are religious. Not every one is self involved selfish and disingenuous. It sounds like you've had a run of bad luck in the people you've spent time with and need to meet new people in your life somehow - making plans up widen your circle seems a great idea .

It'd be a shame for your DCs if their parent is so anti other people and prone to generalising that everyone has bad intentions . It's unhealthy to end up unintentionally isolating yourself and think so poorly of society based on the actions of a few people that have let you down (if that's what had happened).

Yes it would be a shame for my children. They’re probably better off with their dad, he doesn’t generalise that everyone has bad intentions

I am a regular church goer. People who attend church are as flawed as anyone else.
Saying that most of the people I know are good people, they have flaws but they are mostly good. I don’t think I can think of anyone I know who I would say is a bad person.

If you want to meet genuine people I'd go for an outdoor adventure sport such as canoeing, climbing, caving etc.. people who do those have to have a high level of trust in one another and tend to be genuine as a result

Churches tend to be full of people, who are all just as full of flaws as the rest of people. Most who I know are more genuine and caring mind.

Some of the falsest and least genuine people I’ve ever known were regular church-goers. Sorry.

Disingenous, self involved, false and unreliable.

Plenty of this type of people in churches. Lots of lovely people. But also lots of absolute shockers. You need an interests in religion to go to church. Some can be very welcoming.

I think like any other group of humans, churches vary hugely in their authenticity. Ours is largely upper middle class, and I struggle with the materialism of some people and our vicar keeps th keen with lackluster giving sermons. But there are plenty of churches with kind, generous people who will love you and your kids and support you, and that is really valuable, whether you are religious or not.

Huh?

You could try one which is running
Alpha course? To get an understanding of Christianity.

Which also has something like messy church one Saturday a month, (social get together for kids and parents), and runs a club for kids either youth club or girls or boys brigade etc.

If you want to meet people and make friends at a church you need to opt for one which has activities on days in the week as well as Sunday.

Are you ok, OP? I'm concerned that you say your children would be better off with their dad. Your children need you, warts and all.

In answer to your original question though, why not visit a few local churches and see if you like any of them? You might find exactly the right place for you. Of course, you might not, but you'll never know unless you try.