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Christmas presents

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Chenga · 14/11/2021 19:30

Knock at the door this morning and there’s my mother-in-law with a car full of Christmas presents for DH and me, kids, extended family on my side, with the words “You might as well have these now, I want to get organised” and before I could fully articulate an argument against this, they were in and she was gone. So now I have a dining room full of wrapped gifts, three kids desperate to get in there and look and nowhere else to put them. I don’t even buy my own presents til December due to little prying eyes and space limitations. I can’t possibly pass the presents on to my family now, not this far before Christmas, as they have nowhere to put them either.

M-i-L lives alone in huge 4 bedroom house with outdoor storage too. She is a generous woman and imo buys for far too many people but that’s how she likes it and has always done it, so I’m not criticising her for that but I do feel annoyed with her. As for “wanting to get organised”, I’m not sure what she means. She is spending Christmas Eve, Day and Boxing Day with family out of the home and has nothing else to do really but buy and wrap presents —and store them in her own massive house til the last minute—

Usually we have an informal drop-in style present swapping afternoon/evening on the 23rd at one family member’s house and we’re going to do similar this year.

If IABU then I will hold my hands up and admit it but really, it’s November 14th and I’m pissed off

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Pumpkinsonparade · 14/11/2021 19:36

Dh needs to man up and take them back..

meltingmyhead · 14/11/2021 19:39

Yanbu!

Nonicknamesforcatapillars · 14/11/2021 19:43

Yeah that’s quite annoying. Can your DH say “thanks, but can I store them on your spare room until nearer Christmas?” To MIL.

Chenga · 14/11/2021 19:46

I think we might ask if we can store some presents of our own at her place and take these ones along as well, under the excuse of the kids being too nosy. Well, it’s not really an excuse, it’s true.

DH needs to handle this, doesn’t he? I

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shouldistop · 14/11/2021 19:49

I hate to bring this up but my dad gave us Christmas presents in November when he knew he was dying. Is there any chance she's had bad news?

If not then your dh needs to phone her and say you don't have space for them and she'll have to keep them until nearer the time.

labazslovesliving · 14/11/2021 19:51

suddenly finding out she has limited time aside seems a bit crazy to me nope tell her have em back until the appropriate time

Pumpkinsonparade · 14/11/2021 20:05

Yep leave him to it.

Newhorizon21 · 14/11/2021 20:36

@Pumpkinsonparade

Dh needs to man up and take them back..
This 🎄
DeJaDont · 14/11/2021 20:49

I hate that this is what people seem to do now, it just takes ash the sun out of Christmas for me. When I was a kid the best part of Christmas was going to visit family and friends and exchanging gifts over the course of a few days /a week. These days, Where is the excitement and the build up ? It's like the entire focus has shifted from Christmas Eve onwards to taking the tree down in early January, now being heavily focused on trees in November, giving gifts as early as possible and then taking your tree down the day after moving day. Just crazy!

Chenga · 14/11/2021 21:24

@shouldistop

I hate to bring this up but my dad gave us Christmas presents in November when he knew he was dying. Is there any chance she's had bad news?

If not then your dh needs to phone her and say you don't have space for them and she'll have to keep them until nearer the time.

Not that I’m aware of but I suppose it is a possibility. Will gently enquire. Sorry about your dad
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