Do we have another baby??

[Newbabynewhouse]

Cannot decide whether to have a 2nd baby.. i know this is an ongoing thread.. but i need some fresh ideas... we are 30 years old had out 1st DD in feb and can't decide if we should keep her as an only child or have a sibling.... we have decided that if we DID have anothr DC we would leave it as 2! We are very mixed decision whether to have another baby within next few years and its time to start thinking.. we have 2 bed house so they would habe to share for now.. we have enough money for one more... but sleeplessness nights and stress urgh... help

You have plenty of time to decide! Baby was only born Feb so I'm sure your sleepless nights are pretty often still 😂

If it helps, I'm currently expecting our second we decided on at least a 2 year age gap and it will be about 2.5 by the time baby is here. Large enough (for me) to feel like I don't have two babies but small enough that they might be close growing up!

I've seen plenty of people with smaller age gaps and love it as well as larger ones though! My brother had twins then another baby before they turned 2 and they love it!

Honestly you don’t have to decide now! Wait and see how you feel next year.

You’re only 30 so you have plenty of time to decide, no pressure! But yes absolutely have another baby at some stage, I was totally overwhelmed with my first son, everything was a huge stress, every single thing. Just had a second son now 7 weeks ago and it was the best decision ever. He slotted right in, no stress this time whatsoever. Everything is familiar now and toddler loves him and I hope they will be best buds. Wish you luck and yes, go for it!

She's only 9 months old, it's way too soon to be worrying about this!

FWIW, I always wanted two children, but wasn't ready to think about TTC DC2 until after DC1 turned 2 (it was also when I stopped breastfeeding, not a complete coincidence!)

Park the decision for now and revisit it when your DD is 18 months old. By then you should hopefully be over the worst of the sleep deprivation!

My DC2 is 14 months old now, it's an utterly delightful age (IMO) so it might sway you Having two is hard work but oh so worth it (IMO).

I am 36 and my DD is 3.5. We are struggling with the question of whether to have another one (for a lot of reasons) and it’s taking up a lot of headspace so I do get where you are coming from but…...whilst I don’t want to minimise your struggle, if I was your age, with a DC of less than a year, I really wouldn’t be stressing about this now! Enjoy your baby and worry about this in a year or two or three (when things might feel clearer anyway), there is no rush.

Take a breath and enjoy your baby time. 3/4 years is a nice gap. Close enough but not as exhausting as two close together.