To expect neighbours to turn their music down?

[IcedCoffeeAlways]

Adjoining flats - we’ve been in ours 8 years and they were here before us. Ours is two storeys - they have converted in the last few months to make theirs two storeys too.

Our upstairs has 2 double bedrooms, a bathroom and an office. They have converted theirs as one large open space for their 17 year old daughter.

From about 12noon to midnight, whenever she is in the house (which is about 50% of the time) her music is THUMPING 😓 it’s loud enough that the bass thuds through our upstairs and I can hear the lyrics, not just a distant noise. Our bedroom and DCs nursery both have adjoining walls with her room. DC sleeps with white noise on (If anyone uses one - it’s the Hatch on volume 25 for reference!) and the music is loud enough that we can hear the lyrics over the white noise. DC is constantly being disturbed by the music.

They’ve always been decent neighbours and we’ve not had many issues until they converted their upstairs. A couple of weeks in I had to go to them as they were smoking weed in their new upstairs and it was travelling through the eaves. I went into DCs nursery and the smell was vile. It took me days to air it out! I have since approached them (the parents) and asked if it’s possible to turn the volume down slightly or possibly just to move speakers or anything away from the adjoining wall. They told me they’d ask her to move the speaker but “can’t ask her to turn it down because it’s what makes her happy”.

AIBU to think that it’s taking the piss a bit when it’s so loud in our property? Would you make your teen turn it down?! I can only imagine what it sounds like downstairs in their house 😳 I really don’t usually care what people do in their own house and completely expect normal levels of family noise when we live in adjoining properties but it’s getting beyond a joke now!

Well if it starts at 12 noon she’s obviously sleeping in. There’s always the option of putting your speakers against the wall and playing the peppa pig theme tune on repeat at 6am

Sounds really horrible OP. You sound far more tolerant than I would be. Regardless of time of day, music at that level for that long counts as antisocial. You need to keep a noise diary, recording dates & times of the music & approach your local councils environmental health department. This constitutes a formal complaint however & would have to be declared if you sell before these neighbours move (assuming you own). Lots of people make the mistake of going down the revenge route of making their own antisocial noise (perhaps early in the morning when the daughter is likely asleep). Don't do it, it might work or it might lead to a petty never ending noise war.

You could start the diary & approach them one more time before going down the official route, but it sounds like they might just be unreasonable people.

@BornInAThunderstorm

Well if it starts at 12 noon she’s obviously sleeping in. There’s always the option of putting your speakers against the wall and playing the peppa pig theme tune on repeat at 6am

Wouldn't even do that. But I would be tempted to encourage my own children to play really noisy games in their rooms at 6am. If the neighbours complain, tell them it makes them happy.

The neighbours are being very unreasonable. Of course they should tell her to turn it down and move the speaker, not "ask"!

@BornInAThunderstorm Yeah she definitely sleeps in. Definitely won’t be going down the revenge route!

@Kamma89 I really have tried to be understanding and tolerant purely because we’ve never really had any issues with them previously but I’m getting really fed up with it now! We do own 😊 That’s actually part of our problem - we’re hoping to be able to sell within the next year or so and really don’t want to have to go down the route of formal complaint. Definitely won’t be going down the revenge route. I can’t see any good coming from that at all. Diary is a good idea though - I’ll start keeping a record now!