Am I being precious

[Isitmeorthemm]

I'm due my baby anyday now, but I'm booked in for a c section for in 2 weeks time.
My in laws are a huge family and are always having functions and parties.
Because I only had 3 weeks left until my section I wanted to stay away from large groups as much as possible just to be on the safe side so I have declined 4 events so far.
This has made my in laws very angry and they can't understand why I would need to isolate when my other 3 dc are still going to school and nursery.
I've told them that it's because I don't want myself or dh to test positive when the time comes to go into hospital and technically I can go into labour anytime now but they keep saying that I'm being stupid and nothing will happen.
I dont have health anxiety or anything like that but I dont want to risk anything when cases are rising.
Plus I cant take my dc out of school anymore legally so they have to go and I want to limit my risk. I wear masks wherever I go and tend to meet people outdoors. I still see family but not when there's going to be 20+ of them indoors all Sat squashed up.
I am starting to question myself though.
Am I being overly cautious or am I right?

You are absolutely right, dont put yourself at any unnecessary risk, there are far too many cases of pregnant people ending up in ITU with covid at the moment, stick to your guns.

I'd do the same as you.

No you are 100% right. I have two friends who limited all social contact as much as possible from about 34 weeks pregnant and no one judged them at all. You have to do what you need to do to keep yourself and your family safe as much as possible. Is it worth pointing out that if either you or your partner catch covid at this stage, then your partner will not be allowed to be at the hospital with you at any point? If he is isolating who will help manage the kids etc?

If you get any grief calmly explain the above, and if it carries on just state it is not up for discussion

You're right. You've got such a short time left you should be doing anything that makes you feel secure and happy. If that's avoiding large gatherings then that's exactly what you should do. And they should be totally supportive!

Not precious at all’

You are right

Ignore them, if they continue tell you partner to sort them and you block them

Nope you’re spot on.

I think you are abit. Your most risk is from children of school age. I don't blame you not wanting to socialize when you that many weeks but using covid is wrong. I've a friend who's about to have life changing surgery...really high risk a surgeon only ever do her surgery once in their life so high risk ..she is pretty much locked in her bedroom now as in two week countdown and not seeing her children who at school so high risk and food is being left at bedroom door. I'd tell in-laws you feeling unwell due to pregnancy not use covid when the most at risk to you are the three children in your house. Ask DH to talk to inlaws

You do you. It's your pregnancy and your family. Don't feel pressured into doing anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Your DH needs to stand up for you.

Who would want to go to that many events heavily pregnant?

Tell your Dh to tell the lot of them to fuck off. I gather he supports your decision to stay safe, thus keeping your unborn baby safe? If so you shouldn't even have to explain yourself. Stop all communication with them until you are ready to allow them to visit, after the baby is born and settled at home. Until then you ignore them and let Dh deal with their shite.

You do what’s comfortable for you, they’ll get over it :)

Not UR! So what about school-going kids!? While you can't banish your other children but you can limit unnecessary interaction and potential exposure

Thank you for the replies. It's givne me confidence I'm not being ott.
They make me second guess myself all the time and they put so much pressure on my partner.
I cant take my dc out of school, I've already asked the school and they said it's no longer allowed. Plus I want to limit my exposure as much as possible but that doesn't mean I have to barricade myself completely.
I'm actually not using this an excuse to not socialise, I like socialising and I love the bond my dc have with their cousins so every opportunity they get to be together I would usually be there.

You’re spot on to do this. I had a baby recently and did the same as you.

TBH even if I wasn’t pregnant I couldn’t be bothered with all those functions! How draining.

If you don’t want to go you don’t have to go, regardless of reason but you’re not being precious.

YANBU in that it is up to you entirely and do whatever the hell you feel like.

But cases are not rising anymore...and the vast majority of cases at the moment are in school aged unvaccinated children. If you DID want to go to an event and the only reason you aren't is fear of infection - it is exceptionally unlikely. But you may have a million other smaller reasons not to go and that is your prerogative!

@Blueeilidh

Who would want to go to that many events heavily pregnant?

Exactly, never mind covid, you are at the beached whale stage. Nobody wants to go out when they are so close to their due date.

I just had my babies and was asked to isolate as much as possible in the 2 weeks before my c section/induction date so no you’re not being precious.

It doesn’t matter if others think you’re being precious, it matters what you think. You’re the one heavily pregnant and if you want to isolate then that’s what you do.
I would limit my contact with others when pregnant for sure, I wouldn’t want to risk DH not being allowed with me at the birth.
Urgh why do others feel they have a right to get angry about you making decisions that work for your family, so annoying.
Good luck with baby

In laws have form for wanting us to do exactly what they want and how they want.
Cases in my area ARE rising by the way for whoever commented that they're not.