Family court again

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I am being taken to the family court again, four months after I received a barring order. This is the 5 time I've been taken to court in 13 months and 9th time in two years. This time because I asked if my son's father book his holiday in summer 2022 five days after he planned to as we will be away seeing family who live abroad and we've not seen due to COVID. He hadn't even booked flights yet. I received a barring order only months ago and it seems its not even worth the paper it's written on. Am now faced with the whole rigmarole of CAFCASS interviews and family court hearings because one man can't stand a woman having opinions about her own child. Has anyone been through repeated family court and been able to make CAFCASS understand? In my experience, they've always been so appalling. When my ex would stalk me and sit in his car outside my house at night revving his engine, their report said he was just trying to make contact with me. The whole thing drives me up the wall with how misogynist the family court system is.

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I've been to family court 3 times but slightly different circumstances to yours.
CAFCASS were bloody awful though

This is surely harassment and a malicious use of the courts? Do you have a solicitor? I would be tempted to contact the police and explore how possible it would be to have harassment charges made against him. Or if you have to go via court and have some sort of legal order made preventing him using the courts in this way.

Try posting this in the legal board OP. There are some very good solicitors there.

Thanks all for your messages. It's relentless now and I just struggle to deal with it.

I have recently given a statement on video with the police because of his longstanding controlling behaviour and harrassment.

When I made my statement, I had told the police about how he used to rape me when I was asleep. They asked if I wanted to progress this and I said no due to the lack of evidence and the concern that I'd have a character assination. Now I wish I'd pursued it all because I am fed up of being scared of him and scared of rocking the boat.

I'm sorry Op. I went through this. The best thing I did was keep carbon copy records in one of those old fashioned books, of all comms with him. I refused his endless attempts via phone and email because the former isn't recorded and the latter can be altered. Then when he claimed all his harassment was because I 'refused to communicate with him', my barrister drew the judge's attention to the booklet of organised carbon copies of messages about the logistics of good care for our DS and encouraged me to leave it there when we had a break - in her assumption that judge would look at it. CAFCAS were indeed awful - looked at me in outrage when I wasn't prepared to leave my 8 week old son with a stranger looking after him in their offices while I sat at their command and watched a video with my ex about how arguing parents do their children harm. As I pointed out to them, this was all motivated by his desire for attention from me. The last thing I would be doing was sitting in a room watching a video with him. Idiots. Unfortunately in these situations I think you have to pay for a good solicitor and then barrister. He didn't get his way in the end but it was a long haul and his nonsense was defeated really because I was more organised than him in terms of the evidence. Sending you strength