Old photos of me and DS's dad.

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I have a nearly 11 year old son with an ex. We weren't together that long (a few months before I got pregnant) We split when I was heavily pregnant, briefly rekindled when Ds was a baby but didn't last long. He has seen Ds on and off but has been pretty inconsistent in his life - whole other story.

I have a huge box of photos I've been putting off sorting out for years. I found a couple photos of my and DS's dad before I was pregnant, at the pub. Would you keep for Ds to look at or get rid?

There's also photos of Ds and his dad as a baby and at his christening, obviously I'll keep them.

But the photos of us before ds?

I've been with dp for 9 years! That's how long I've not sorted these photos out.

Would you just bin? Or do you think Ds might be interested one day? He's never shown an interest so far. He can't remember any different than me, Dp, himself and Dd with on/off relationship with his dad.

Dp isn't the type to be offended by old photos. Not sure how I would feel if I found old photos of him and ex though! 😅

Keep them.

It's your sons history and it might mean something to him when he is older.

I think it could be of great comfort to your dd some day to know that you and his birth father had some happy times.

Make him an album and put it away safely for him. It’s part of his history

Keep them if you both look happy in them. Everyone would want to be the product of a relationship that was at least happy at the time, and you could potentially give him that feeling.

Keep them, My great grandmother distorted all the photos of my Nan’s Dad with her and the wedding photos. I would still have loved to see them.

Put away for dc in future.

Are you on speaking terms with his Dad now? It might be nice to ask him to add more photos to create an album to include these photos as well as some of his Dad and other members of his side of the family? In a couple of years or so your DS might be interested in this and it might help him build a sense of identity.
When my Mum and Dad split up my mum created a sort of timeline album: one for her and her side of the family and one for my Dad and his side of the family. It helped me to see where I kind of fit into it all if that makes sense.

I've given DD our wedding album and am in the process of making a photo album to give her for Christmas. I've put in all the photos of he and me and annotated them. It's taken ages as it's been quite an emotional process but it will be lovely to hand them over and not have them anymore.

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Are you on speaking terms with his Dad now? It might be nice to ask him to add more photos to create an album to include these photos as well as some of his Dad and other members of his side of the family? In a couple of years or so your DS might be interested in this and it might help him build a sense of identity. When my Mum and Dad split up my mum created a sort of timeline album: one for her and her side of the family and one for my Dad and his side of the family. It helped me to see where I kind of fit into it all if that makes sense.

Well depends what someone means by speaking terms. Civil yes, we don't really talk much. I don't think his dad would have any himself. He was never a photo taker!

Ds is starting to ask questions about how I met his dad etc. But he's also asking how I met Dp. Ds is also autistic so things can be a little puzzling for him at times!

Thank you 💕