Just want opinions - I’m a sahm with 3 kids under 5. One child is in school full-time. My DH has a full on job and works hard. He also has a side job that he does just to keep his hand in and because he enjoys it. He has to do a certain amount of hours a year. He has done the required hours for this year (probably a lot more). Usually this entails a weekend a month and one weeknight. However, courses can come up and other stuff which means he’s away for a period of 2 weeks at least once a year (I’m not sure how many of these there have been this year). These weekends every month mean he is gone the entire weekend including overnight.
What I’m wondering is what can I expect from him regarding the weekends. I’ve asked if he can stop these weekends away for a bit and just do the bare minimum hours to keep his hand in cos I struggle to attend activities with the kids on the weekends. But I feel bad for asking.
I’m currently ebf a baby under 6 months and he recently went on a course that was 2 weeks away which meant 3 weekends. I manage on the weekends but it’s the activities and social things that are hard. I have family but the closest is an hours drive away and works weekends.
Am I unreasonable to expect him to cut out these weekends for a bit on his side job to make my life easier or is that selfish?! I know it’s only one weekend a month, one weeknight and a course here and there but it just feels like there’s always something looming.
For context he spent over 6 months living away from me mon-fri during lockdown for work. That was a choice to further his career.
When he is home, it’s a huge support and he does dedicate the remainder of his spare time to us. I wouldn’t ask for him to give anything up if the kids were a bit older, it’s just that they’re so young.