Cant go anywhere or do anything with DP

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I'm in france and DP refuses the vaccine. You don't need to tell me how dumb/socially selfish that is. I was front of the queue for my vaccines and I get it.

We have always had a live and let live approach to each others views. We have very contrasting views at times but it doesnt create friction, we enjoy debating our views. Until now.

I dont have an issue with him not getting vaccinated in and of itself. What I have an issue with is some of you may know that we have had a sanitary pass in force here for fucking ages now. Unless you have been vaccinated you cant do anything fun. You cant go to a bar, a restaurant, a cafe, a cinema. You cant even take a train. The pass was supposed to be made non compulsory in November but they have now extended this to July.

Bear in mind that our lockdowns here in France were much more intense than in the UK, and I am just feeling exhausted in my relationship. We get along great but i am so fucking bored of only hanging out at home with him. Of course I go out and live my life with friends.

But our relationship feels so incredibly boring and flat now as it has been like this for almost 2 years because of covid. The main issue is now I'm going off sex with him and although he has said nothing I can tell it really hurts him 😔 But how am I supposed to muster up sexy feelings when its just me and him in our living room, rinse and repeat.

I dont know what I'm asking from you here. Maybe just a) How would thos situation make you feel, b) Am I normal for finding it difficult to have sex (I do fancy him but I just cant feel sexual) and c) What can I do about this?

We are 35 and 40 in case that's relevant. I'm off to the supermarket now - the only fucking activity open to us (although it's a bank holiday so maybe even that will fall through)

Tbh, I would have left France before putting up with that shit from the government. I really hope that idiot is kick out in the next elections that’s not an overreaction at all is it?!

I’m in France too and I’m very happy with the way the government have handled it. I’ll gladly show my pass sanitaire and wear a mask if it saves peoples lives and allows us to get on with life. I can’t see a downside tbh.

OP I couldn’t live like that. Either do things without him or tell him it’s over. Those are your choices I think. If you stay, you’ll spend the rest of your life suffering because of his choices.

I would end the relationship, tbh.

Sorry, but he's an idiot. Go out and have fun and point out to him that he could have fun (and sex with you!) if he weren't being so completely ridiculous. Or find another more sensible partner. 100% with you and happy that I am not with someone like your DP.

You can leave him now and start living again.

Or you can wait another year till you are absolutely totally irrevocably sick of him.

Or wait 3, 5, 10, 20 years until something else breaks the camel's back.

You are incompatible!

I would not put up with non vaccination & being stuck at home

I would end the relationship

OP,

I think you should take a break from the relationship.

Can you move out.

Whose home is it?

You need a break from each other.

Covid could trumble on for several more years with these restrictions continuing.

A break will give you time to reflect.

He isn’t dumb or stupid it’s his choice to make.

Maybe he is refusing to get it to actively avoid doing all of those things with you OP and the "untested" excuse is what he is using to do so.

Dump Mr Dunning-Kruger and enjoy yourself!

Can he tell us what all the health agencies, acedemic institutions, public health bodies, research communities and every other reputable public and private organisation has missed about the risk from the vaccine?
How many doses before it is not untested?
And why he is in conflict with every expert in the vaccine field who state adverse events, if any, manifest quickly not over a prolonged period.
Because if he can't then time to rethink your relationship.