AIBU for getting annoyed over weight comments?

[buntybanana]

About twice a year I go away on a weekend staycation with two of my friends from uni for a catch up (living in different parts of the country, busy lives etc). We're all getting the point now where we're in stable relationships/marriages and ready to think about kids (all late 20s).

Both my friends have always been overweight (this is relevant) and their lifestyles don't involve exercise or healthy eating really. Now this is no judgement on my behalf - I think they're gorgeous and living their best life. However, I'm slim - partially genetics, partially long distance running / no alcohol / healthy eating. I care a lot about my health and love exercise & an outdoorsy lifestyle.

When we discussed trying to get pregnant soon, both my friends said that they hoped during pregnancy I would finally get fat because I had 'escaped it for so long'. Now I know this was kind of a joke, but I'm actually quite annoyed about it. I feel that I haven't escaped being fat, I've worked hard to be fit!! I'm probably overreacting but I keep thinking about this comment and getting annoyed. AIBU?

Having a baby doesn’t make many women fat. Having a baby makes many women thinner than before. If maternity leave is spent going for long buggy walks / runs (as many new mums do) you can easily end up much fitter than before. It’s when you are on baby 2 and have to juggle a toddler and a baby that long walks are harder and losing weight after takes slightly more effort.

But for some body types / genes having a baby does make you fat.

Oh for goodness sake OP..... Is there some other issue with these particular friends? You seem to be searching for something to take offence to?

I was dieting for my wedding and I had a friend who came around and said 'oh you're so lucky you find it easy to lose weight'. My DH piped up and said 'you mean she luckily goes to the gym, walks the dog twice a day, goes to a boxing class and is pretty much always hungry'.

I loved him for that, I'm sure she was kidding or it was flippant but keeping weight off or losing it is hard graft.

I'm in a similar situation with overweight friends always "joking" that they hope ill out on weight or whatever. These are friends who knew me when I was almost hospitalised from an eating disorder and have visited me in hospital when I've been admitted with the long term complications from it btw.

I just used to reply "I most likely won't, since I'll still eat healthily and exercise. And if I do, being healthy is more important than my dress size."

@Siameasy

Yanbu I hate hearing about slim privilege 🙄 when I sacrifice a lot of pleasure to be slim They’re jealous.

Exactly this!

@MollysDolly and @Cheerychirpy you're absolutely right - it's not necessarily fat, it's pregnant & everyone is different. Thanks for the advice - I'll let it go as it seems to be a reflection on them.

@TheAverageUser good on your husband!! Love this. For some people it takes so much sacrifice & a lot of people don't see behind the scenes - they just assume you're lucky and they're not.

@Natty13 this is awful and I hear you. It's a good reply, I might use the same one!