Left my abusive ex over 5 months ago. He hit me when I was pregnant causing my nose to bleed, last time he hit me was 2 weeks after the birth and breastfeeding our daughter. I finally left him and slowly getting my life back on track. I lost so much weight through the stress I almost died and he left me with ptsd.
Moving forward, I have requested if he wants to see his daughter it’s supervised access. He refuses to go to court because he says he doesn’t want the stress but he wants to see her.
My other concerns:
After I got pregnant he started coming out with comments like he doesn’t like white people (his daughter is half white). He has made so many racial remarks and so have his family. His own mother said mixed race people are the most confused on earth and she wouldn’t even be in the same room as me as I am white.
He started doing class A’s and smokes weed all day. He has got a drug driving conviction and is a drug dealer.
He said he will beat his kids.
So personally, I don’t want my child to have anything to do with him and definitely not his family (who also condoned him hitting me and have made threats to come to my house) and all I want is the best for my daughter but I don’t want my daughter to grow up and resent me for not trying to co parent with him. But I also really don’t want her growing up having any trauma or hating either side of race. I feel like I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t.
What would you do now and what would you plan to do in the future when she grows up?