For getting a cleaner?

[OhLilLady]

I’ve just let slip to my Mum that I’ve hired a cleaner to start next week and she’s gone mental. For context I live in a two bed, two bathroom flat with DP and no kids.

I WFH and DP works shift work in the public sector. I have a chronic illness and when it flares up I do struggle to keep on top of things so it does sometimes end up all falling on DP. WFH has made me really aware of my environment and if I don’t have times to tidy/don’t feel well enough I feel it having a knock on effect on my mental health because I’m just in it all day.

My Mum said cleaners are for people with kids and big houses not in flats and I’m being lazy. So AIBU for getting a cleaner and would you judge me as lazy if you found out I had one? I’m a little worried of what other people would think if this is my Mums opinion.

Just ignore your mum. You have enough reasons to have help and it will take a load off both you and your shift working DP.

And as Prattypatel says it also helps people who are okay with the job because it puts food on the table and fits round children. Providing of course they are paid the minimum wage or more and aren't exploited.

She’s out of order, it’s none of her business. You can spend your money how you like. If she’s that bothered then she can do it herself! Is she jealous and / or interfering? People have done weird attitudes and hang ups about cleaners

@Starcaller life is too short! I also prefer spending time doing my interests, rather than doing cleaning so we have a cleaner

Absolutely not. Do what you need to do. I'm sure you find your home needs more frequent cleaning anyway if you are working from home!

I'm surprised at your mums reaction, you have a chronic illness and are doing something to make life easier for you (and even if that wasn't the case, so what!?). Its really unsupportive.

If I could afford it I’d have a cleaner, if my son had enough pocket money he’d hire one just for his bedroom lol
Don’t know why some people are such martyrs that they resent people outsourcing jobs they can’t do or don’t want to do.
You enjoy it!

I have a cleaner and a gardener and I have someone come out to valet my car.
We sometimes also get a meal delivery service where they bring all our meals pre prepared.

I live in a two bed terrace and work from home.
I’m able bodied and have no kids.

I feel not one iota of guilt.

I didn’t have kids so I could have extra money to spend on such things, and I like my free time to be free so I can watch Netflix and Mumsnet.

I’m sure lots of people would think I’m lazy but I don’t think you need to struggle if you don’t have to.

I’m the same in my business, I outsource everything I don’t enjoy and as a result I’m free to do all the things that I do enjoy which make more money.

It took a long time to unshackle myself from my working class Methodist ‘life is suffering and suffering is meaningful’ core belief but now I have I can actually relax.

Wow what a lovely mum you have is she always this lovely?! YANBU and ignore her.

You really need to shut this crap down so she gets the message that it is unacceptable and doesn’t do it again for whatever she next disagrees with. Or it will keep happening.

I have a cleaner and no kids. Dp and I also outsource all painting and decorating and plan on getting a gardener ASAP.

Not an iota of guilt. We like to spend our evenings and weekends together or visiting family and friends.

It’s none of your mum’s business whatsoever. You go for it.

My husband used to clear-up before our cleaner got here. He didn't want her to think we were a bunch of lazy dingbats.

Get a cleaner! Will change your life! I had one as a single lady and have got increasing levels of help at home with DH and kids now in the mix. Couldn’t cope otherwise :-)