Being to to shut up

[fizzypop100]

Please tell me if I am being overly sensitive.
Twice today DH has told me to shut up in the car. DS, age 15 was with us on both journeys. He said "just shut up, you've been chattering since we left". We were speaking about work that is being done on our house next week.

No you are not being unreasonable, shut up is quite an aggressive phrase, I think you should say to him you really don't appreciate that tone!!

YANBU, that’s unacceptable.

He does it because he knows you won’t do it back to him.

Tell him very coldly to stop talking to you like that.

And if he does it again, tell him to shut up very coldly.

And then think about if you want to stay with this twat.

Before my marriage ended I had refused to be in a car with dh. He used the journey to mentally abuse me. Once got out while the act was actually moving..

I think a sharp ‘who do you think you are talking too?’ is needed, have you retaliated to this.

*car was moving

It's very rude.

Does he have form for this?

@BashfulClam

I think a sharp ‘who do you think you are talking too?’ is needed, have you retaliated to this.

Yes to this. Definitely pull him aside op and speak to your DH.

YANBU, OP, he was very rude and completely out of order.

I think it’s fair enough asking for some peace but it’s the way he’s speaking to you that is wrong. If me and my husband need a minute of peace we will say ‘hey sorry but can you pipe down for a wee bit my head is buzzing.’ Said kindly and politely.

Not acceptable. Asking you to be quiet would have been fine.

That is very rude.

What a role model he is. I'd be having quiet words later that if he ever spoke to me like that again, in front of the children or not, there would be serious consequences like asking him to pack his bags. Twat.

@Pumpkinsonparade

Before my marriage ended I had refused to be in a car with dh. He used the journey to mentally abuse me. Once got out while the act was actually moving..

Erm, surprised you're not in hospital then? Getting out of a moving car is not a sane thing to be doing.

I've been married for 41 years, and we often tell each other to shut up. It's no big deal to either of us. Sometimes, the other person who is yapping all the time is irritating. We're kind to each other in many ways - and that's what matters, imo

@TheCreamCaker but do you say it politely or not. We will do it politely and u swear and the other one just needs peace for a while but snapping at you in front of kids is not acceptable.

No, it's not polite. If he does it again tell him not to speak to you like that. It's not OK.

Tbh I didn't feel sane. Used to lie awake plotting the prefect murder.
. Knew I had to leave.