To want the computer upstairs out the way?

[SweetMaryHell]

We have a 4 bedroomed house and it’s just me and DH living in it. So 3 spare bedrooms. I’ve turned one of them into an arts and crafts room for myself so that leaves us with 2 spare bedrooms. A double and a single.
DH insists on his scruffy computer being in the dining room. None of us matches, the monitor is fucking massive, it has two massive separate speakers and a separate scruffy looking bass speaker - again massive. The computer desk is littered with wires and just general shite. It’s an eyesore. I want to have a nice dining room!! With a table and plants, bookshelf etc but no it’s just a junk room.

I’ve said numerous times I want it moved. He could turn the little bedroom upstairs into his own little office! Then I wouldn’t care, out of sight, out of mind but he’s refusing!

Icing on the cake, I’ve just been up to the spare double room to find another bastard computer all set up on the floor. It’s beyond ridiculous and it’s doing my fucking head in.

Can't you just move it yourself?

Me and DP are in a similar situation (four bed house, occupied by two childless people), but we’ve both gladly taken a spare room each as an office and nobody has their computer or stuff cluttering up the dining room, and we still have a spare room for guests and a dining room for dining.

Dunno what your husbands problem is TBH.

He doesn’t have a reason for not wanting to move it, he just doesn’t want to

It's probably cold upstairs and warm downstairs? And near to you?

I like our home to look nice all of the time - including no unnecessary random clutter

But it's not random clutter. It's his gaming PC, which he presumably uses a lot, akin in some homes to the TV. And while it's fair enough for a person to want their home to look nice, it's equally fair enough for someone to want their home to be a lived in space not kept nice just for the sake of it. It's his home, not a show home. Her wish for it to look nice on her terms doesn't trump his wish to have his PC downstairs. If they share the bills, they both need to compromise and share the space. Downstairs as well as up.

@SweetMaryHell

He doesn’t have a reason for not wanting to move it, he just doesn’t want to

Then wait until he's out/at work and move it yourself. It's not difficult to plug everything back in.

@Avarua

It's probably cold upstairs and warm downstairs? And near to you?

Not necessarily. It's much warmer upstairs in our house...and possibly OP doesn't want to listen/watch her OH gaming. 🥱

^ THIS.

If he's that lazy, then he won't want to move it all downstairs again.

Are you planning on having children with this selfish twat?

When DH started WFH last year, he was in our dining room. After a few weeks, I realised it was going to be for the long haul. I asked him to move 'his office' to another room. He kept saying he was happy where it was. So one morning I was up early and moved the whole lot to another room out of the way. Initially he wasn't happy, but after a couple of days he agreed it was actually a much better place.

This sounds shit, like a teenager’s bedroom.

Get rid.

Do you use the dining room as a dining room? I'm struggling to understand why he would want to have it there instead of his own office. I'd bloody love my own office but my partner and I have to share due to lack of space. Is he worried about waking you if the PC is next the bedroom?

I'd get all the arts and crafts stuff and take up the whole dining room table with it. I'd then spend all my time in there, playing loud music and chatting to all and sundry on the phone-loudly.