Aibu to ask coach to pay my daughter

[mrsbeeton999]

Dd is 14 and quite good at a sport. Her coach asked if she wanted to help teach on Saturday mornings for 3 hours as an unpaid job but she’d get coaching training and be put through her basic coaching exams. She’s really enjoying it and wasn’t that bothered about not being paid. 4 weeks ago the coach came and chatted to me at the end with dd standing there. She said that dd is a great asset and the kids love her so she’ll start paying her “a bit of pin money”. 4 weeks on she has received nothing. I feel I should say something but it’s awkward as initially she took it on not assuming she’s get any money. Even if it’s just £5 a week I’m annoyed she said she would give her some money and hasn’t. If IANBU how should I word it?

Hi coach, thanks for the opportunity you have given DD, she has really appreciated it. I think your idea of giving her a little pin money is great, would boost her confidence, and make her feel appreciated too. Are you still intending to do that?

I feel like if this is the sort of sporting club that relies on volunteers, and your daughter agreed to volunteer in exchange for coaching training and courses then that should be the arrangement. I’d be more keen to push for her to have a place booked on the next course and for a development plan to be agreed. If the club pays other coaches then I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask for her to be paid too. A proper hourly rate not pocket money.

I’d also look for a way for her volunteering to be recognised eg Duke of Edinburgh awards.