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Sebastian18 · 06/11/2021 12:50

Hello, i have been with my partner 12 years. We have a kid now 5 years old. Before my son was born we paid all half. When my son was born in stopped working and came back to work 4 months ago 27 hours a day. I am earning 1/3 of my partner salary and he really doesn’t want to do anything at home. As he doesn’t take responsibility for anything in the house i asked him he was responsible for keeling the kitchen clean. However he just put dishes in dishwasher and sometimes wash the saucepans. He never clean worktops etc. A part from that he takes out the rubbish and ocassionaly i ask him to take clothes away from washing machine. So, i think I should be contributing to 1/3 of bills but because i am the one who does all cleaning, etc in the house and look more after our son i should be contributing less. I just feel very unfair i have to do all in the house. The kitchen is always a mess.

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ArblemarchTFruitbat · 06/11/2021 12:58

27 hours a day You won't have time to do anything! Grin

Assuming you mean per week, that's not far short of full time.

You should organise finances so each of you has a similar amount of personal spending money - which in practice means the higher earner contributes proportionately more.

Similarly you should split the housework so each of you has a similar amount of leisure time. If you are looking after your son in the shortfall between your hours and his (I assume he is full time) then this would be a simple 50/50 split. If your hours mean your son is at school when you have some 'free time' it would be reasonable to expect you to do a little extra in that time while your partner is working.

Sebastian18 · 10/11/2021 10:30

Hi thanks,
I mean i work from 9:10 to 2:50 pm while my son is in school. I get up and sort out my son for school, I pick him up from school take him to the park or home and cook his dinner etc

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