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AIBU?

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To work in an office where I don't know anyone?

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strangerintheoffice · 04/11/2021 21:16

Started a new job during lockdown. My work has been very slow at getting us back to the office, it started with just one day a week in August and we are now up to two times a week. The application process said I could work from any of the company's offices (there are three), and I received verbal confirmation before I accepted the job offer that I could work from my chosen office. I was quite open about it during my interview too.

I was WFH when I started and we have been gradually easing back to go into the office. It turns out everyone in my department works in one office (which is quite far from me), and the office local to me that I wanted to work from just has the HR and finance departments working there. My manager said it's fine, although he keeps asking when I'm coming into the office and the number of in-person meetings at the far-away office is slowly increasing.

I like going to the local office, it's good for my mental health to be around others and be out of the house for at least some of the week. But I feel so lonely there because they aren't my colleagues, I say polite small talk but I don't have any of those little interactions that come from talking about work-related things. I also feel out of place and embarrassed, like I'm not supposed to be there. But I also kind of like being there 'on my own' and being able to put my head down and get my work done.

AIBU to go and work in that office? Do you think it's weird for those who work from there that there's a stranger in the office?

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Lurcherloves · 04/11/2021 21:18

I think it’s ok to work in the close office and presumably there will be some interaction with those departments? When you say far, how far is the other office, could you go one day a week?

IsDaveThere · 04/11/2021 22:16

Well you won't be a stranger once you've been a few times. The office I work in occasionally has people in who don't do the same work as me, we all get one and have a chat together, just not about specific work tasks!

PlanDeRaccordement · 04/11/2021 22:21

No YANBU. I used to be part of teams and we were spread across the globe so never working in same location. I’m sorry you feel lonely though. Perhaps the company would allow your team to travel and meet once or twice a year in person?

strangerintheoffice · 06/11/2021 11:09

My role has no need to communicate with those departments at all. The HR staff that I would interact with are based at the other office.

Everyone is really friendly and welcoming to me but I haven't met everyone and I can see in their eyes when they see me walk in in the morning they are like "who are you and why are you here" lol.

My actual colleagues though are also weird about it, they ask me why I go to that office and 'joke' that I don't want to spend time with them. That office is 2 hours away so I will try and go there once a week.

You've made me all feel a lot better about it though. Thank you, I've noticed such an improvement in my mental health by going there. :)

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