To move out of family home

[Neurodiversitydoctor]

This is outing so will name change after this thread. I am a hospital doctor married to an architect (this is relevant). On Monday DH is realising a long held ambition of getting the roof done and solar panels installed. We originally wanted to do it in the summer, I compromises on early October and here we are. The work is likely to take 2-3 weeks. I have come home tonight I found the boiler is broken, so we have no heating. I suggested to DH we postpone the work on the roof until at least the boiler is fixed/ replaced. He is determined to go ahead. I get up at 5:30 in the week and work ft, obviously I need to look presentable for work. AIBU to sort out some nice warm hospital accomadation for me and the DCs (12&15) while he "lives the dream"

I think you are saying your DH has form for this sort of thing, and being an architect you'd hope he'd be more sensible. Is this just a blip in which case move out whilst he sorts it all out - but with only 6/7 weeks till Christmas that's a pretty daft thing to start. Or is it a symptom of a Captain Chaos - a man who does things with no thought for others and gets it wrong then paints himself as the victim? Oh and says it was your idea/decision? What would happen if you just said no, its not going ahead?

[quote Porcupineintherough]@Hellokittyninja yes it's a well known fact that the poor have no rooves.[/quote]
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@Hellokittyninja

Rich people problems. Peak mumsnet.

Hair-shirt comment! You forgot the other one 'third world'.

The roof works probably can't be postponed now. You can't tell a contractor who's spent out on all the materials for your job that they aren't needed until April! That's not on. So if you need to move out then move out 🤷‍♀️

@Brefugee

i don't understand why you wanted to do it in summer then changed to october. You mean summer just gone or next summer?

Can you arrange to get the boiler fixed? Don't wait for him to do it

She meant delay the work until weather is warmer next summer

And I don't think it'd be wise to have new boiler fitted when pipe work is open or being removed for renovations - it will need to be done when heating system is connected or it will cause problems.

Oh god yes do it.
No one wants to be seen by a smelly, stressed Doctor, your work is important you need comfortable down time, not a building site to go home to.

@Hellokittyninja

Rich people problems. Peak mumsnet.

ODFOD

Anyone can have problems. It's not tied to your income. And although I couldn't afford all that I very much sympathise with the OP.

I also hope, OP, your DH is more sympathetic to his clients!

There is a 9 month waiting list to re-roof houses here.
Don't loose your new roof slot .
Yes to Airbnb or hospital accommodation.

She meant delay the work until weather is warmer next summer

Thanks. Having said that it's difficult to get any work done right now - I'd see if I could live elsewhere for the duration

@namechange30455 but OP hasn’t name changed yet, she said she was going to do it AFTER posting this thread. So that doesn’t really make sense.

There is a 9 month waiting list to re-roof houses here.
Don't loose your new roof slot

This is why it is happening November, it's the soonest the contractors could do. I name change fairly regularly and haven't posted anything controversial under this one, but will name change afterwards, in case I do want to post anything personal.

@spaceghetto

I'm so sorry, I always want to ask this but never do... how does changing your name stop it from being outing??

I thought that about another thread today

I don't mind being outing on this thread...it's about linking to others. I have no problem if my friends know I am thinking about this, they know us both well.

YADNBU! I once moved out of the flat I shared with two friends (who owned the house) when they decided to remodel the kitchen and bathroom AT THE SAME TIME and IN THE MIDDLE OF WINTER.

It involved knocking out the back wall, removing all the plumbing (inc. the loo), and having plastic sheeting in place of a back wall for the whole of Jan and Feb. If you wanted to use the loo they'd done a deal with the very nice family next door, who said we could use their downstairs shower room. The male half of the couple was baffled as to why I didn't want to stay ...

I think its more about the info on this thread is stuff shes happy to people realise its her, but then once they recognise it, not want them doing an advance search and seeing everything else she's posted about.

YANBU!