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To not want DH to take nephew to the football?

19 replies

kegengel · 04/11/2021 08:48

BIL was in close contact with someone that has tested positive for COVID, his LFT are negative so far but has decided to self isolate in case he is positive later on.

The issue is, DH, BIL and nephew go to football matches and were due to go this weekend. Nephew has messaged BIL and has asked if he can still take him. He hasnt been in contact with the positive case, but I'm worried in case BIL is positive and Nephew seems fine but then passes it on to us and DD.

AIBU here? What would others do?

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HilaryBriss · 04/11/2021 08:54

I can't see any issue with taking your nephew, your BIL is negative and your nephew hasn't been in contact with anyone who is positive.

Your BIL doesn't need to self-isolate anyway if he is double vaccinated.

Gottahavehighhopes · 04/11/2021 08:54

Im generally cautious but would be fine with that as long as dB had been taking negative lateral flows.

Are you vulnerable? If so for me the match would be a bigger worry

Mumdiva99 · 04/11/2021 08:56

Does nephew go to work or school? What about husband? They could both be in contact with positive cases.....that's life unfortunately. No need to miss the football on a maybe.....

Seeline · 04/11/2021 08:56

How will they get to the match? If DH has to drive, just have all the windows open. If public transport, then he could be mixing with anyone any way.

At the match they will be outside anyway so risk of any transmission is much reduced.

If nephew has contacted DH himself I am assuming he is old enough to not need to be in close contact with DH - no need to carry him or anything?

Presumably DH is double vaxxed?

SickAndTiredAgain · 04/11/2021 08:58

I’d be fine with this.
If BIL hadn’t been a contact, they could still have been surrounded by people at the football who were all in households with covid positive people. If your DD is at school she could be spending her day with people whose parents have covid. Your nephew could be at school with kids who have someone in the household with covid.

Shoxfordian · 04/11/2021 08:58

Yabu
Bil is negative; assuming you’re all double vaxxed then you’re being overly cautious

Sirzy · 04/11/2021 09:00

BIL himself could go as he has tested negative, he is just being sensibly cautious by not going but no reason for nephew to isolate!

Tal45 · 04/11/2021 09:06

Get the nephew to do an LFT if you're worried.

SickAndTiredAgain · 04/11/2021 09:07

@Sirzy

BIL himself could go as he has tested negative, he is just being sensibly cautious by not going but no reason for nephew to isolate!
According to the rules, if he’s double vaccinated he could go even if he didn’t take a test at all (in England, not sure about elsewhere).
Topseyt · 04/11/2021 09:10

I would have no problem with this at all. Let them go in peace.

It's only Covid that we dance around in this way. He could have been in contact with any number of other viruses that he could pass on and you would not be saying this. You would be none the wiser.

I assume your nephew goes to school? And your DD perhaps? There has always been a good chance of contact there.

We have to stop this bollocks sometime.

Baconking · 04/11/2021 09:12

YABU. Even if BIL tested positive, if nephew tests negative and shows no symptoms, he could still go

Hankunamatata · 04/11/2021 09:15

Guidelines say it fine but would be a big no from me but then I don't agree with lft for close contact. Close contacts should be a pcr on day 2 and 8, with isolation at least until you get first negative - we isolated whole house when this happened last month. Then household member tested positive day 8 while the rest tested negative but again we isolated everyone and we were right as every single member tested positive after that close contact,

Fdksyihfd · 04/11/2021 09:29

I wouldn’t have an issue; I think we’re all having contact with people in that way and to be honest the football match is riskier than the contact

girlmom21 · 04/11/2021 09:31

BIL has repeatedly tested negative. I don't see the issue.

anon12345678901 · 04/11/2021 09:48

I wouldn't have a problem with it. I was in close contact with a positive case and although I did take a PCR just in case which was negative, I continued with my normal routine, gym, work, school clubs etc.

AndSoFinally · 04/11/2021 10:55

I'd be more worried about the thousands of random people at the match, any one of which could have faked a negative LFT.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 04/11/2021 11:43

Surely the whole point of the vaccine was to allow people to return to an almost normal level of lifestyle, to reduce the severity of the virus. If you have been double jabbed you don't need to isolate. I guess some people will choose to, but does your employer have to pay you if you make that choice? if your DH has been vaccinated he is at no more risk taking your nephew than he is going to work or going to the match on his own.

skippy67 · 04/11/2021 12:06

YABU.

KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 04/11/2021 13:12

YABU. BIL is testing negative. Would you feel better if nephew did a lateral flow too, is that possible?

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