Are all narcissist's abusive?

[kelseypops]

My H is definitely a narcissist but I'm just trying to figure out if his behaviour is also abusive. Not physical - never been violent. But emotional abuse.

I have left him btw.

I don't know the answer to your question OP but well done on leaving him. Life is too short to be unhappy.

No they aren't. Like all personality disorders, traits will vary person to person. Those who have behaved abusively, can work on not being abusive.

@Ponoka7

No they aren't. Like all personality disorders, traits will vary person to person. Those who have behaved abusively, can work on not being abusive.

Thank you. I don't even know why it matters tbh. Either way he's a giant knob head.

Just wish I had some clarity as to why I feel like I have done over the years

I think they're quite predisposed to it due to the fact they consider themselves more important than others but I'm sure there are outliers

I don't think it's a case of not being violent outright towards you but in my experience he was cleverer than just a wife beater. He would throw stuff right near my head, just missing me, rush at me as if he was going to hit me then swerved at the last second. He made me feel the fear of " having it coming" but never actually did anything to me. I wish he would of hit me just so I could label it "abuse". It an entirely new level of abuse, instead of leaving bruises on your body they are left on your soul.