I'm very fortunate that no first degree relative has died so have no experience of inheriting. Many times on MN I've seen posters chime in with "beware of IHT" if an OP mentions that their parents paid for a holiday/extension/icecream.
So how does it work? What even is the threshold? If someone dies does a forensic accountant go through their bank account for the last seven years to see who they paid/gifted? Or does the solicitor rely on people coming forward to declare things?
Perhaps selfishly I want to minimize what my children would have to pay in terms of IHT (although I'm not a homeowner so it might not even apply?) so are there ways around this? On here I have seen something about £3.5k allowance every year?