So dp has had really bad toothache for about a week and a half. He has a severe phobia of the dentist so hasn't been for ages and is therefore no longer registered at his previous dentists. He'd finally had enough and we got him an emergency appointment on Monday. Dentist thinks his pain is mostly because of a wisdom tooth coming through, but he also needs a couple of teeth taken out. Unfortunately he was so scared that they felt they couldn't help him and he would need to find a dentist that offers sedation. So he had the day off work on Monday for that appointment, and then took yesterday off because he was in a lot of pain still, and needed to try and find a new dentist to register with. Said he'd do some housework but didn't (I was not bothered that he hadn't done any housework yesterday). When I got home from work yesterday he still hadn't managed to find a dentist accepting patients and asked for help so I rang round, eventually spoke to Monday's dentist who said they would refer him to an appropriate dentist 👍. He was supposed to go to work today, as who knows how long it will take to be referred and he can't just not go to work for ages while waiting. I leave for work this morning assuming he's gone in (he leaves after me) but get home to find he hasn't gone to work. He's also done nothing in the house (not a massive issue but he could have just done the dishwasher or something and the house is a mess), just been sitting watching a series all day. Am I being awful to feel annoyed with him?? I know he's in pain and toothache is so so awful (I have had lots of tooth trouble over the years so I know how bad it can be), but I also don't think it's okay for him to just stay off work everyday.. especially because we have no idea when he'll actually get an appointment to have the work done. He's taking co codamol, ibuprofen and using benzocaine tooth gel so it's not like he can do much more to relieve the pain, he's just got to deal with it until the appointment. So wise mumnetters, Aibu and should I try to have a bit more sympathy?