To have shown my disappointment

[merrygoround51]

DH is a terrible present buyer (I see this as a lack of thought) and this birthday I suggested I give him a list but he said no he was sorted.
So I get concert tickets for a band I have never shown any interest in and have none of their songs on my playlist.
Firstly we never really went to concerts - comedy shows, plays yes but concerts no. I like maybe 2 acts enough to pay for their concert tickets.

When he gave them to me I was like ‘oh x thank you, what songs do they have again’ and I just couldn’t muster up the enthusiasm to hide my disappointment. Was that wrong ?

To put it in context a couple of years ago I bought DH something he didn’t really want and I ended up using and he still jokes about my present to me which I take on the chin and laugh about.

He is now annoyed and put out and I am the bad guy. I mean ffs there wasn’t even a card

YANBU.

I think he's out of order to be annoyed that you are quite reasonably disappointed with tickets to a band you don't give a damn about!

Please report back about what he says when you say "why did you think I would like to see this band?"

I like wooky’s response Tbf!

YANBU to show disappointment. Tell him you don't like the present and for Christmas if he goes off list that will be it for present buying and in future he can buy for himself and you will buy for yourself.

Just go to the concert, go for a meal beforehand, embrace something new.

fuck no. I once got my DH, at his request, tickets to a band he loves. We go to a lot of gigs and the songs i know by this band are good. And i was bored to death. Literally nearly crying with utter boredom as they noodled away endlessly at guitar solos and new songs that i didn't know because the album came out after the gig.

I will never ever again waste precious minutes of my life on a band i don't love.

Is it a band he likes?

DP and I both love music and gigs but our music taste doesn't overlap totally. If we were buying tickets as a present for the other it would have to be an artist/band where it did overlap. Buying a ticket for an artist I like but DP doesn't, for his birthday, would be incredibly bizarre - I would say selfish but it wouldn't even be enjoyable for me (I'd want to go with fellow fans!).

If it's not a band he likes then the entire thing is even more bizarre.

Oh and I point stuff out to Dd who then helps DH , although he has given me some great gifts which I haven’t asked for, he has also has epic fails…he does need a little help sometimes.

YANBU to be honest that you're disappointed. It is a selfish gift. Maybe ask him if he'd rather go with a friend who will enjoy it more and then suggest a play or experience as your birthday night out - and hopefully he will do the honourable thing and treat!