When addressing half siblings

[sistasistaa]

Didn't know we're to post but this always plays on my mind

When speaking to my half sister and half brothers (some different mum,some different dad) I always feel bad saying "my mum/dad" if it isn't their mum/dad?
Both of my parents are still together
So for example I'd usually say to friends or whoever "I'm just going out with my mum " but I'm over thinking and say to siblings "I'm going out with mum/dad" even though it may not be their mum/dad

This is such an over thought but how do you address things like this ? We are a very close family so wouldn't bother them I know so that's why I just don't say "my" ?

Overthinking this

It's ok to say facts when talking. They are your mum and dad.

Fine to say I'm going out with 'mum and dad', or 'my mum and dad', if that's how you'd speak naturally.

You can't control how people react to innocuous things and it WBU to expect you to stumble over yourself to use weird way to refer to your parents each time to a half sibling

Hmm my (half) brother is you I think if I’ve understood your aibu. He has both mum and dad, and we have the same mum but it’s my ex-stepdad.

He just says - going out with my dad or been talking with dad. When I talk to him - I say I’m going to see [insert name] or I’m going with your dad. If he rings to talk I might ask have you spoken with [insert name] or your dad? He sometimes asks me if I’ve spoken with dad lately.

My DD calls him grandad though, as does my (half)brothers child. One day mine might ask why I don’t say dad and then I’ll let her know - he’s your uncles dad but my stepdad.

We don’t actually differentiate by even mentioning that we are half siblings. We are just brothers and sisters.

To answer your AIBU - yes your being unreasonable to be over thinking this so much!

I use my mum and my dad when talking to my (same mum and same dad) siblings, doesn't seem to bother them

My BIL uses our mum and our dad when talking to my husband which, oddly, annoys me. Maybe because it sounds a bit odd, not what I'm used to.

Just use whatever you feel comfortable with, the tripping over or going oh sorry, MY mum would be the thing that makes it uncomfortable

Over thinking.

I say my mum and my dad to my full brother 😂

I'd actually be more bothered about you acting like your parents are their parents tbh. Especially as your parents are together. You're kinda acting like your family is the family, and they should want to be a part of it. They actually have their own family that doesn't include one of your parents and that's fine.
I know it's coming from a good place though but either it's annoying them or they're not even noticing the difference.