To think that 40 is not that bad?

[irisetta]

For some context - I'm now 41, in a reasonably happy marriage, 2 DCs (4 and 7, one with ASD) - I try to look after myself, as and when. Yes there are challenges, but when I compare my state of mind with early 20s, or even 30s, with overall sense of perspective, etc - I feel so much happier now, overall. AIBU?

46 and have no fear of 50 - bring it on.

Everything gets better from 40!

Wait to the menopause /peri hits. You might be lucky and get away unscathed.

43yrs old, happiest and most confident I've ever been

It's a great time to be alive.
(50 is worse so make the most !!)

Make the most of it before the dreaded Menopause comes along to spoil the party!

I'm loving my 40s. I've accepted who I am, what I like and what things suit me. We are solvent, have overcome the strains of baby/toddler years and early marriage.
We are middle aged, middle marriage and I bloody love it !

@Socrates71

Make the most of it before the dreaded Menopause comes along to spoil the party!

Do you always try and bring people down? People are posting something positive.

When people speak postivky in RL do you feel the need to day something negative? Just to try and deflate them a bit?

I love my 40s. I suspect it may be the best stage of life.

I think the 40s are a great decade for most.

Not young, but not old. Children hopefully a bit older so you can claw back a bit of adult life. Financially well-off, before the uni years.

@Bagelsandbrie

I’d like to have the body and energy I had in my 20s with my 41 year old mind…!

I think this nearly every day

Just turned 40 and I'm the calmest I've ever been.
Leading up to my birthday my family were commenting about how warm and relaxed I'd become and I can recognise it now too.
I have a feeling I'm entering my best phase

51 and feeling better than 41 when I had a ten year old and a three year old...
Started HRT recently and omg....
all I will say is to the 40+ people here, the slow ebb of hormones is really something to watch out for.
I honestly feel SO different, like I used to feel in my skin, but with the benefit of another 10 years of wisdom.
40's were ok. Busy.

The very early 40s feel great, you have a good view back on life and fel strong. And then perimenopause starts to get in the way for many women, in ways that often aren't labelled perimenopause. Get educated about this next season of life, and don't dismiss hrt as an option for getting your superpowers back.

I’m nearly 39 and have been the happiest I’ve ever been also x

I'm 57, happily divorced, adult DC. Happier now than in my 30s and 40s (dreadful marriage).

I don't mind being 40 but I do kind the I'd that my fertile years are over and I didn't get my 2nd baby

@JaceLancs

Glad you are feeling this way! For anyone thinking it’s downhill I’m 57 and that’s great too! I rock and wish I’d found myself when I was younger

This! 40 was good, but 50 better. If you keep fit and healthy getting older is easier.

I’m 50 and I’ve had a marvellous life that has improved with every decade, long May that continue

I'm 50 and life is getting better, my dc are adults/older teens, they are thriving and great company plus virtually no bother.
I've way more freedom and importantly now have the time to take care of myself, nurture friendships etc I've got a better social life than I did 20 years ago!

Honestly, just embrace getting older, it's a bloody privilege.

Very happy in my 40s. Career is still on the up, kids need me less, fewer fucks given, more disposable income, mortgage will be gone in 4 years...l.feel like this is the prime of my life.

39 here and feeling pretty excited about turning 40.

20's were great, 30's have been shit. They were just an extension of my 20's when I should've been making better choices. Riddled with anxiety, didn't really have any career plans, no major relationship, realised a few friends weren't really friends after all.

Now although still single and childless which suits me (the child part, would still like to meet someone), I feel an inner calm. I know myself, I'm being kinder to myself, I've got big plans so I'm really looking forward to it!