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To think this isn't okay and he needs to do more?

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PorPau · 02/11/2021 12:35

My DSD is 8. She lives with us and DH is the RP, she sees her Mum 2-3 times a week though, usually at the weekend. It's been this way since she was very young.

I'm a SAHM and this includes most parenting of DSD too.

The issue I am having at the moment (or in the couple of years or so) is that she is always "ill". I can't keep up with the amount of times we've been called to pick her up from school or at the weekend she's been "poorly" (but always well enough to do something she wants to do or having something she wants to eat etc.).

I would say 9/10 times there is absolutely nothing wrong with her and it is now increasing a lot due to the whole Covid situation as she knows all she now has to do is say she has a sore throat or similar and school will send her home for a test.

DH just thinks she's being cheeky and playing the system a bit "like all kids" apparently. I think it's ridiculous and we need to get to the bottom of what is going on and why.

Admittedly whilst I'm also of course worried something more is going on, I'm also getting sick to the back teeth of having to go and get her all the time too so she can just come home and be fine!

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ParmigianoReggiano · 02/11/2021 12:42

Is she allowed screen time, toys etc when she comes home? I'd be trying to make it very boring for her, stay in bed and soup for lunch if she's too ill to be at school.

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 02/11/2021 12:53

Let him be the one to go and get her and stay home. He will soon put a stop to it then.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 02/11/2021 12:57

Yes, I'd be wondering if there's some issue at school. Struggling with the work, bullying?

Artie30 · 02/11/2021 12:58

I think you need to talk to school if you haven't already and tell them you don't think there is anything wrong with her most of the time and tell them to really think about sending her home and only if she's visibly poorly. Only because I've had similar with Ds. They were sending him home after he said he had sore throat once.. there was nothing wrong with him.

Also, make sure if she does get sent home things aren't fun for her at home. No tv or tablet time. She just had to chill on the sofa or in bed. Might change her mind.

Also, get her dad to pick her up!

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