To give birthday presents 6 months later?!

[Rosemary88]

Is this rude or am I overreacting...my friend is rubbish with birthday gifts always forgetting and gives them late, fine for adults but she has only just gave my son his birthday present when his birthday was in April. Same with my other son. I find it rude that she makes no effort it drop it around in time for their birthday.
She really has no excuse now as not working and at home all the time!

I would think it was lovely of her to bother buying my dc a present and a nice surprise.

Not bothered here. Time is relative, after all.

PIL won’t post anything more than a card to DD, and never with money/cheques. Being 300 miles away, visits don’t always coincide with events. She has just had last year’s Xmas present along with last year’s and this year’s birthday presents as DH passed by during a work trip. She’s not bothered that they’re late. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@peachescariad

Yes it's rude and actually quite hurtful....everyone uses a diary on their phone, wall calendar, desk diary, work diary on pc etc....there's no excuse. It's selfish that some people can't make the effort to check birthday dates...if it's a close friend or relative they'll know roughly the date....it's not difficult it's the same date every fucking year. Rude and selfish...unfortunately, there are quite a few people like that

No one owes anyone a present..

You could say it’s rude that your so expecting of a present for your child. Surely your kid loves a random bonus present? Have you not seen this friend since April until now?

Friends-doesn't bother me.
My mum-ignored Ds's birthday in august and then stamped her feet when I didn't immediately drop off her presents in October.

I doubt your child is in the least bit bothered. Don't assume that she is doing nothing. This kind of attitude is rife between my close group of friends and it's not nice to watch.

You just sound grabby and weird. Just be grateful for the gift surely. A lot of very strange and entitled posts here, she’s given a gift she is under no obligation to give at all, and you’re fucking moaning about it. I’d gently suggest you grow up.

@girlmom21

I don't think you can be upset when you haven't made the effort to see her in 6 months either.

I have seen her regularly for walks, etc she didn't mention it until last week and then said sorry I just kept forgetting!

I really don't expect presents, I had thought that when she never mentioned it.

@MondeoFan

This would really annoy me. Why can't she get it to you on time? One of my supposed friends did this to me. I don't even text her anymore.

Entitled AF!

I don’t see an issue. Some people are busy and forgetful and she’s your friend not the child’s parent or grandparent. Her giving a gift is just a nice gesture even if it is late. Also I think it’ll be nice for the child to get a random present.

I’d only say it’s only unreasonable if she expects your presents to her kids to be on time.

I think it's really rude. No, I'm not entitled, I don't expect them and I don't expect ppl to buy for my kids. If they do want to buy then I'd prefer it on time simply because when it's a kid who's been forgotten by a family member it's not very nice and they feel hurt (talking young kids). Also the whole point of a birthday is that it's that particular day which is special not some random date 6 months on. I'd rather ppl not bother at all and just send a text or something.

Can't see the problem. Doesn't seem malicious one bit. Very nice of your friend to buy a gift. I wouldn't get annoyed with the time frame or the fact she's forgot to bring it if she's seen you. It happens, people's lives get busy whether they work from home or not. She'll have her own priorities. A friend acknowledging the birthday is more than enough.