To want to restrict how much we have the heating on

[reallyagain]

After a winter working from home last year we were hit with a horrendous heating bill (several thousand on top of already paying quite a high amount per month). So this year with gas prices being so high I’m really conscious of being careful. DH wants it on much more than I do and it’s causing endless rows. He’s turned it on 4 separate times today and is sulking when I comment. We share heating bills - I suggested he pays more to have it on more but he refuses.

How much do you have the heating on if you work from home?

£660 pm is erm.......ridiculous. How are your bills so high? I run a B&B and prior to this quarter's price hikes we were paying £175 per month gas and electricity - that's with 3 guest rooms having showers, all the extra laundry and the heating on far more than it would be just for the family.

£660 per MONTH? Is he growing weed?? We have a 4 bedroom 3 storey -moneypit- Victorian townhouse and average between £57 and £75 per month. No kids but both WFH. Will have heating on as needed, but generally set to 17 degrees. DH feels the cold far more than me so layers up and uses a low energy electric heater in his office. YANBU your DH needs to pay more if he wants it on more if it's impacting to such an extent

YABU I hate being cold, it makes me miserable and my body starts to shut down

But then what about the flip side? I hate being too warm, it makes me frustrated and miserable, gives me headaches, makes me lethargic and sleepy. I shouldn't feel like I need to be wearing a crop top and shorts to prevent breaking a sweat when I'm just trying to chill out at home.

Bogey the bills are so high because he wanted it on so much

It's hard to say if you're BU really without knowing how cold your house is.

My DP loves the house freezing all year round, he doesn't feel the cold at all. I don't like it roasting but I do put the heating on when I'm cold, personally I'm not sitting about in my home wearing thermals and woolly jumpers just to avoid putting the heating on, I'd be so uncomfortable with that many layers on.
Luckily we don't argue about it though.

Im struggling to understand how your bill is over £600 a month though, that's crazy! I think you need to change energy companies! We're gas central heating too, last winter we had our heating on every day for a couple hours in the morning, a couple in the afternoon and then a couple before bed. Quite often we'd leave it on overnight for 12+ hours if we accidentally forgot to turn it off and our bill was still now where near that!

Last winter we were averaging £660pm. Can't really cut back elsewhere to pay for that! It's a 3 bed house albeit Victorian

I like the heating on & often have it on all day. £660!!!

I grew up in a house with no central hearing then when we got it installed, my dad never wanted it on. Freezing all the time! And as a pp said, sticking a jumper on doesn't always help. But l can't bear it too hot either so l turn it off and dh turns it on!
You are just different op but agree you shouldn't have to foot the bill and heating the whole house is a bit daft especially with gas prices atm.

With BG too but we don't have heating on all year round

in his words he shouldn't have to behave like 'a miserly arsehole

Tell him he is being a miserly arsehole if he won't pay for the extra has he wants to use.

Wanting the heating in in the living room
Of an evening seems entirely reasonable though. However, I prefer to turn it off well before bedtime so it cools down before I go to bed (radiator is off in the bedroom but it still gets warm).

Also I like a comfortable ambiant temperature, not to sit under blankets all winter. Or to have too many layers on (merino, long sleeve t shirt & 1 cardigan/jumper and warm socks is my limit in the house).

@reallyagain

Bogey the bills are so high because he wanted it on so much

But even you have to wonder how it got 660. I cant imagine a months worth of heating your house gently during daytime hours would lead to that sort of bill.

I'm absoloutley stunned.

We pay 100pcm gas and elec combined, also Victorian, 3bed. We have the heating on about 1 hrs first thing, then another 3 hrs in the evening. I wfh but prefer lower temperature.

Even if we kept it on at 19 all day long I cant see how we would spend 6x the usual amount.

£660 is more than we spend a year on gas and electricity combined in our 2 bed Victorian mid terrace. (£47 a month) Surely that much must be an error or gas leak or something?

But to answer your question we usually wouldn’t set it higher than 18-19 and it’s set to come on when it goes below 15 in the living room. We have oodies plus it’s a good way to remind yourself to get up and move around a bit if you’re cold, since it’s bad for you to sit still for too long anyway.

If I had to pay the equivalent of 660 pounds per month in Canadian dollars we would be bankrupt. That would be well over $1200.

Something is wrong with a bill that high. It doesn't make sense.

Forgot how- I don't think we're different in terms of feeling cold (like I say he drives with window down in the winter) but I'd prefer to put on a cardy than pay that sort of money

It really doesn't sound right & is it ever off in the summer @reallyagain?

Does 19 degrees inside with heating, feel like 19 degrees outside from the sun? Because I hate when the weather goes to 18+ degrees outside. I'm wondering if it feels like a different heat tough.

I still have yet to put mine on and probably won't for a while.

Being cold is miserable

Have you got decent radiators, a new boiler?

We don't have it on in the summer at all

New boiler, old radiators

@reallyagain

Bogey the bills are so high because he wanted it on so much

We have ours on 24/7 in the winter and our bills are nowhere near as high as yours. There must be something else going on.

Is your house Balmoral? For your monthly heating bill to be that high you must be heating a very large old stately pile.

3 bed Victorian

@saleorbouy

My Mum always said put on a jumper it's already paid for..... Buy him some good merino base layers and then he won't need the heating on. Have you got individual thermostatic valves (TRV) on your radiators at least then you can reduce the temps in unoccupied rooms.

This. Layer up.

Soft sheen I might suggest that - my worry though is he'd do that on top of the rest