To want to restrict how much we have the heating on

[reallyagain]

After a winter working from home last year we were hit with a horrendous heating bill (several thousand on top of already paying quite a high amount per month). So this year with gas prices being so high I’m really conscious of being careful. DH wants it on much more than I do and it’s causing endless rows. He’s turned it on 4 separate times today and is sulking when I comment. We share heating bills - I suggested he pays more to have it on more but he refuses.

How much do you have the heating on if you work from home?

My dh complains I have the window open at night in the winter yet refuses to wear more than underpants to bed. put some fucking pyjamas on then you wont be cold!

Or close the fucking window, then you won’t be cold.

If she sleeps with the window open at night in winter, while wearing reasonable night clothing like pyjamas, I think it's safe to say she isn't too cold though. It's the almost naked DP which is.

Well nay I suggest you consider moving to a well insulated garden flat or similar so you can afford to heat your home to a comfortable level? You sound like you are living well beyond your means if turning up the heating is going to cause a mortgage default.
With one son and two FT jobs where is all of your moves going??
There must be a back story.

Agree @gcgirlsrock

The obvious compromise is to heat the house less than they did last winter, and for him to put on more clothes to compensate. Which he is refusing to do.

Expecting to sit in a t-shirt all day in winter is as anti-social as running a snow-dome in Dubai in summer.

Money going?? Sorry for typos

18 degrees outside when you're walking around with the sun on you isn't the same as 18 degrees inside sitting at a computer for 8 hours!

I wear fleece trousers, a thermal vest, top and jumper and woolly socks + slippers on top of normal socks, yet all of that doesn't stop my hands and fingers going freezing cold. I'm not wearing gloves indoors lol. I have the heating on 20-22ish and find that comfortable.

@vickyp0llard

18 degrees outside when you're walking around with the sun on you isn't the same as 18 degrees inside sitting at a computer for 8 hours!

I wear fleece trousers, a thermal vest, top and jumper and woolly socks + slippers on top of normal socks, yet all of that doesn't stop my hands and fingers going freezing cold. I'm not wearing gloves indoors lol. I have the heating on 20-22ish and find that comfortable.

Well it's a bit daft if you spend the Day in the home office to heat the whole home

That is an extraordinarily high bill, if there is no foul play (eg. A cannabis grow house syphoning some energy from the surrounding houses, a gas leak of some kind, that you're actually paying your neighbours bill too) then of course your use must be out of control. Hearing a house for 16 or so hours a day to 30 degrees is ridiculous. No house needs to be 30 degrees in UK in winter. If you want to spend Christmas in a thin t-shirt and Bermuda shorts might as well book a winter holiday with that kind of money.

OP have you told him that it is £165 A WEEK (sounds even worse!!!)

£23 a DAY!!!

£660 per month is insane! I keep our hearing on day and night from mid October to mid March, at an average of 21 degrees. Our bill across the year works out at £120/month for a 3 bed detached.

This is a grown assed adult

The OP says that this current expenditure will mean they can’t pay the mortgage / food bill

And yet he is still not willing to make a change?

I’d be worried about his mental cognition

@Obecalp

*It’s October Start of winter*

Winter doesn't start until December and ends at the end of February. It's Autumn.

My point was If this is causing anger and sulking in October

What the heck is it going to be like in January!

@Obecalp

My dh complains I have the window open at night in the winter yet refuses to wear more than underpants to bed. put some fucking pyjamas on then you wont be cold!

Or close the fucking window, then you won’t be cold.

If she sleeps with the window open at night in winter, while wearing reasonable night clothing like pyjamas, I think it's safe to say she isn't too cold though. It's the almost naked DP which is.

I was paraphrasing the poster.

My point was, why is it the person who wants the window open who has to be accommodated? This is one of those marital incompatibilities that can only be resolved by compromise.

I'd say open April to September, closed October to March would be quite an equitable one.

On the other hand, I do quite like the idea of them waking up on Christmas morning to find a light sprinkling of snow on the duvet.

I'm so gobsmacked about the fuel bills on here. My monthly direct debit for dual fuel is now £67 just gone up from £56 and in the summer its roughly £37 a month.
Three bed 80s build with 2 kids 2adults.

Im now wondering if our smart meter is broken!!!
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Just done a quick fag packet exercise, and say 550 of your 660 is gas, in one month:-
Daily standing charge of 40p per day for a 30 day month £12.00

That leaves £538 on actual gas.

At a rate of 4p per KW per hr, 24kWph, it costs £1.06 per hour (give or take).

That's 507.5 hours of heat per month - or heating on for 17 hours per day for a full month.

So if it goes on at 6am, and it's on all day until 11pm?

And even then 110 pcm is mental for electricity

The obvious compromise is to heat the house less than they did last winter, and for him to put on more clothes to compensate. Which he is refusing to do.

No, the obvious thing to to is to find the real reason the bill is so excessive because it isn’t due to him WFH.

My monthly direct debit for dual fuel is now £67 just gone up from £56 and in the summer its roughly £37 a month.
Three bed 80s build with 2 kids 2adults.

That does seem low for both. We’re in a new build and although our house is a bit bigger, we’re more than double that.

@Noavocado

I'm so gobsmacked about the fuel bills on here. My monthly direct debit for dual fuel is now £67 just gone up from £56 and in the summer its roughly £37 a month. Three bed 80s build with 2 kids 2adults.

Im now wondering if our smart meter is broken!!!
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Is that all year around?

Sorely you read the papers and can see that you are definitely on the very very low end of the expenditure spectrum?

We have it on constant in winter but controlled by the thermostat so it only clicks on if it goes below 18, then 16 overnight. I do have the radiator off in our room though, weirdly I hate a hot bedroom at night.

I can't bear being cold and if it's cold in the house putting a jumper on doesn't help my freezing nose or fingers!

Your bill is ridiculous though, ours is nowhere near that for a large 4 bed!

@Noavocado

I'm so gobsmacked about the fuel bills on here. My monthly direct debit for dual fuel is now £67 just gone up from £56 and in the summer its roughly £37 a month. Three bed 80s build with 2 kids 2adults.

Im now wondering if our smart meter is broken!!!
.

Do you have a combi boiler? Is your heating and showers electric?

Often it's 7 degrees here today and 2 degrees last night, so but semantics whether it's technically autumn or winter 😁

Oh sorry I see re year round costs

But pint still stands re confused why you’re gobsmacked

Your expenditure is not even close to average reported in papers

@reallyagain

Often it's 7 degrees here today and 2 degrees last night, so but semantics whether it's technically autumn or winter 😁

Either way

You two have a good 6 months of this ahead of you 😬

And it's November now where I am 😂

Do you always PA 😀at someone with a problem or just keyboard MN warrior style