Covid Care Fatigue

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AIBU to want to kick my DH out?
Both him and my DD have covid. Neither Myself or DS have it (so far).
DD staying in her room, comes out to use bathroom and wipes everything down.
DH comes put of our( now his room) coughing. Not wearing mask and doesn’t seem in the bathroom long enough to wipe things down.
Both myself and DS are finding it really stressful as we don’t want covid. I’m even sleeping downstairs on a mattress FGS!
DH being completely dick and despite me having a go ahead him several times he isn’t taking it seriously. He even had the dog on the bed with him earlier and I’m looking after her. Dog is sleeping very happily with me on mattress so I had to wash the dog. I want to evict him. I can only think he’s feeling so ill he’s not thinking straight. He’s pretty bad with it, but I am sooooo fed up with him.
Sorry for the rant but any tips for sharing the house with family members with COVID would be gratefully received.
I can’t move out while they self isolate as DD needs looking after as does DH is really poorly. DS recovering too from Stomach bug.

Open the window and wipe the bathroom down yourself after he’s used it? You know what measures to take, it’s just your DH is not co-operating.

It’s probably a question of when not if you get it anyway, so maybe just get it over and done with?

You'll probably get it anyway as COVID is contagious before symptoms start.

Just use gloves and wipe the bathroom if it's worrying you.

Get him some decent N99 masks to wear every time the bedroom door opens. Then you won't have to clean the bathroom if he's using the loo.
You'll have to ventilate and clean the bathroom after showers or teeth cleaning.

We recently had covid in the house and we all share a bathroom. Using this method we didn't catch it and it was confined to a single person.

Depends. If he was asymptomatic then yeah, he should clean the bathroom. If he has the experience many of my friends have had, expecting him to clean the bathroom after use is ridiculous, they were almost too ill to even get to the bathroom much less clean it. You’re being really unfair. Open a window and wash your hands after touching what he’s touched.

In sickness and in health….

I’ve bought a gazillion wipes and sprays and I’m doing the cleans after each use . My hands are like old ladies.
I wonder how likely it is that I will get it?

Eldest teen dc tested positive and coughing so he isolated, meals in room etc all our other kids have tested positive 2 days later so carrying on as normal in the house. Rest of adults are vaccinated and so far negative on pcr and daily lft. btw stomach bug preceded positive pcr in teen dc. Isn't covid a primarily airborne virus so wiping down isn't going to do much good when in the same house isolating.

Iv had one or other positive kids in bed with me as they needed cuddles.

Your more likely to get it from virus particles in the air than on surfaces. Wear a mask when entering areas he has been and opening windows.

Breathing it in is your biggest infection risk. If you use Dettol surface spray if you miss any areas with wiping the spray will still be landing and doing its job.
I used half a bottle per clean of an entire bathroom each time it was used without a mask by the infected person.

It worked though. Of the 5 of us only one had covid and all shared the bathroom.

“I used half a bottle per clean of an entire bathroom each time it was used without a mask by the infected person.”

Surprised breathing all that in didn’t put you in hospital. Half a bottle multiple times a day?!

Ventilation is the key! My son just had it and all we did was keep windows open, he didn’t want to stay alone in his room so we didn’t make him. Washed our hands loads and cleaned the bathroom after each person used it ( I did this to make sure it was done properly). I think catching it from surfaces is pretty rare anyway. None of us got it.

The best thing you can do is keep your home well ventilated. I know it’s tricky now that it’s cold.

We’d a door open with the heating on. Waste of energy but needs must. We also had the air purifier on. It was for less than a week. DH and one DC got it but me and other DC didn’t. Nether DH not unwell DC self isolated. I looked after them both, including cuddles for ill DC, who was only off his food for two days and was back to bouncing around on day 3.
I slept downstairs too and hated it quite a lot!

@Donotgogentle

Open the window and wipe the bathroom down yourself after he’s used it? You know what measures to take, it’s just your DH is not co-operating.

It’s probably a question of when not if you get it anyway, so maybe just get it over and done with?

Absolutely not true - I had it a 3 weeks ago, living in a one-bed flat with my partner. Both fully vaccinated. We shared a bed and a bathroom as normal. Partner didn't get it. I did think it was a matter of time, but assuming all appropriate parties are vaccinated, they won't necessarily catch it, even being in close contact.

You may have been exposed to a small amount of virus, when your DH and DD started shedding viral particles, allowing your immune system to kick in (especially if vaccinated) - possibly why you see such a spectrum of symptoms within a household.
I was at a talk by a flu virologist some years and she suggested gradual natural exposure better the sudden exposure to a lot of virus (ie better child being gradually exposed to chicken pox as a sibling develops disease opposed to taking kid to chicken pox party with a child at peak of disease and shedding a ton of virus paricles - yes some people did think that was a good idea!)
As people have said ventilate area, maybe wait a while after husband has used bathroom and wash hands regularly. If he is feeling rubbish, then understandble no cleaning bathroom. Hope everyone is on the mend soon and you stay well.

“Absolutely not true - I had it a 3 weeks ago, living in a one-bed flat with my partner. Both fully vaccinated. We shared a bed and a bathroom as normal. Partner didn't get it. I did think it was a matter of time, but assuming all appropriate parties are vaccinated, they won't necessarily catch it, even being in close contact.”

I didn’t mean in the house, I meant in general.

Given how widespread Covid is unless you choose to live in a very restricted way I doubt very many of us are going to outrun it.

We had 3 out of 5 with covid over a 2 week period. We did our best to isolate and they all shared one bathroom, the two that were ok used another. We really didn’t worry too much about cleaning constantly, we kept all the windows open so the house was well ventilated and those isolating wore masks outside their rooms. It worked well thankfully and though a pain, wasn’t too trying. The worst but was having to spend 10 nights on the sofa.

If he’s as ill as you say it’s too much to expect him to clean the bathroom. Leave the window open and clean once he’s done. I know it’s an anxious situation, but he’s ill. People need help when they’re ill.

Youngest DD had it and we carried on as normal in our house, no frantic scrubbing of bathrooms and I did not make her isolate in her bedroom (no point and no good for the mental health of a teenager). Eldest DD shares a room with her sister- I gave her the option to move into my room and I would sleep downstairs but she said not necessary, if she were to catch it then so be it.
Neither one of us caught it despite our lack of household Covid measures, the only thing we did do was open windows to keep the house well ventilated.