Feel really fed up with everything at the minute

[Krystalcastles]

I work over 50 hours a week in a job and rarely get a day off, I only started this job in August though so I can’t leave yet without looking like a job hopper.
The manager doesn’t reply to me or isn’t in a lot of the time, so I feel stuck. I wouldn’t mind the longer hours if they were compressed over a few days but I haven’t had a day off since 12th October.

My partner is great, but so much more charismatic and popular than I and I have no idea how to be like that. We went to a party at the weekend and people seemed to know who he was already, flinging their arms around him so happy to see him. I’m happy for him but I feel like nobody really cares in comparison.
This weekend I asked an old school friend if he wanted to meet up and he never got back to me. A few months ago I was meant to meet a former colleague but she suddenly became ill 2 days prior, and has made excuses since about why she cannot meet up and doesn’t really contact me first.
I’m not memorable to people, and people comment that I look nervous even if I feel relaxed, which in turn makes me feel self conscious.
If I didn’t have my parents and my partner I’d be alone majority of the time.
Lastly, I know it’s petty but I had a short haircut which I hate. It’s really too short, too short for extensions but it’s just getting me down. All I can think of is getting a wig for it.
Sorry for moaning, I do get paid well for my hours, I have a good relationship with my family and there are positives. Just feel fed up and not sure where to start

The two people I mentioned post pictures of other days/nights out which makes me think it’s personal.

I think that when we feel a bit down, everything 'bad' feels highlighted. My partner sounds like yours, I'm the invisible one.
I find doing something, however small, just for me helps
Can't help with the job as I just left, I didn't want to loose myself for a job that I was just a number to the manager
Are you menopausal age?

I’m 30, the money is good but only as I’m doing over 50 hours a week.

I’m glad to hear you left, my job doesn’t give a stuff else they’d have given me a day off by now.

Hope things will improve

Can you look for a new job? I’m about your age and in my 20s I left 2 jobs after only a couple of months as I just knew they weren’t right. It didn’t seem to harm my future job hunting prospects at all. I imagine you’re so bogged down working all those hours that it doesn’t leave much time for you, and it can seem like you are loosing yourself in the process. And your hair will grow but I bet it looks better than you think!

Honest to God, look for another job. How long can you keep going at that pace? If Covid has taught us anything it's look after ourselves, physically and mentally,if you can't leave set yourself little targets, it's just until after Christmas /Easter etc
Get out there and make friends who value you as much as you value them
Good luck with whatever you decide/choose to do.

Definitely look for a new job. No one cares about job hopping as long as you can explain why the job didn't suit, and 50 hours over 7 days a week means an unworkable work/life balance and is easily explained.

With regards to cancelled meetings, how many successful meetups with friends have you had over those few months? Have you asked twice and been blown off twice, or do you just remember those two because right now everything feels miserable?

It's hard making and keeping friends as an adult, my husband manages it so easily, and still has all his old school friends so always has something going on, whereas I'm not very good at retaining friends once I've moved on, so I get feeling lonely and miserable.

Are there things you can change, apart from the job? Are there courses or classes you fancy going to, which would give you a social engagement each week and a chat, even if friendships don't come out of it?

I go to the gym and pass inane chatter with the regulars I see there, and I take a language class every week, they're not friends but I see them every week, hear their news in a foreign language and have quite a laugh.

And hair always grows!

Thanks for all the replies, I am aiming to leave In February but maybe after Christmas would be even better.
The employees are all treated differently with regard to time off, it’s unfair.
Got mistaken for a man the other day which didn’t help ! I will invest in a wig I think then hopefully in 6 months’ time I should at least have a short Bob

I’ve been aiming to leave in feb to make it 6 months, but maybe Jan would be better even.

I’ve got 2 friends who are up for meeting up and then a group I see every few months, so I’m lucky I’ve got that, maybe I am just being too hard on myself

Sorry didn’t see I’d written the same thing twice lol, screw those people anyway, I will move on and meet others