My mum has a big birthday next year (ends in 0) and I’m organising a little party for her.
She has two sisters. Mums the oldest and there’s a year or just over between each sister.
The youngest and my mum get on really well, talk on the phone most days, text between calls, meet up when not working etc.
The middle sister neither of the other two have much to do with. They talk if they see her and have her mobile number in case something happens to their elderly father but that’s about as far as it goes. Mum and youngest aunt very rarely mention middle Aunt and if they do they say she’s rude and they don’t like her much. It’s always been the way, we saw loads of youngest Aunt and our cousins growing up but I hardly knew middle Aunt and my cousins from her part of the family.
Of course I will be inviting youngest Aunt to the party, my mum would be upset if she wasn’t there and because of that invited her husband and his two children (youngest Aunt has two boys – my cousins but they both live abroad – one comes back to the UK for Christmas only the other never does so I’ll invite them via my aunt but they’re unlikely to come).
My internal debate is do I invite the middle sister? I feel like I should because if she finds out that her dad, sister, BIL and his DC went to party for her other sister she might be hurt, but at the same time I feel if I invite her and she comes and my mum doesn’t really want her there then it spoils it for her.
It’s a surprise party so can’t ask my mum, could discuss with youngest Aunt though when I invite her.
So WWYD?
Vote:
YANBU – Invite Middle Aunt/Sister
YABU – Don’t Invite her