Relationship

[Rachdar]

Help ! I've no friends and I'm in such a dilemma. I've been with my partner 3 years we lived together but a year ago he and my 21yr old son who lives with me fell out cos my son blamed him for my over drinking (I've been sober for 9 months now ) my partner gad to move out since that day neither of them have spoken. I live my life between homes my partner wont come near my house so it's always me running to him as such. I love him and wish he would 1 cut down his drinking (he starts at 12 right through till bed he don't work) 2 make amends with my son but he's so stubborn he says it not his fault. Last Christmas we spent day apart which hurt and my kids are saying he not welcome this year I don't see point in this relationship if everyone cant get on as I want to get married again one day (in 48) I love him and I love my kids what do I do do I end it or just keep living this way ??

You need to save the only life you can save:your own

This, with bells on.

It's like one aeroplanes when they tell you to fit your own mask before someone else's.

You will waste your life trying to help him overcome alcoholism. You've done brilliantly to be 9 months sober- that's an incredible achievement. He hasn't managed it!

Think what else you can do for yourself if you put your mind to it, go and build up your life in wonderful ways with wonderful people who care about you as much as you do them.

Sorry OP but your partner e sounds like a scrounging waste of space. You can do better.

It sounds like you've been through a rough time and are trying to get better, you deserve that.
I don't think, from what you've said, that this man will help and support you.
Your kids sound great and I think they are protecting you.
Ditch him, put your energy into your kids