Is he an A hole and I'm a pushover?

[Alicew00]

My child's dad dumped me a few months ago but we still occasionally sleep together and still friends but this week while he had our child he constantly messaged me about taking her to an event when I told him I was at a new job training but he didn't care that I didn't have time. He kept going on about it and calling me snappy. Then on the way to meet them to pick her up he kept ringing me while driving to say ring him while on the dual carriageway!!!!
But he thinks he's a Saint because he met me less than half way to get her and he doesn't see how my point is more valid.
Anyway apparently we are friends because he wouldn't let it go but I noticed he deleted me of fb yesterday! And now he is saying OK add me again then and he doesn't seem to get what the point is? Am I freaking crazy?? Help!

Sorry I don’t mean to be rude but you sound 12. Separate - co parent as civil adults and not engage in sex or arguments if at all possible

Yes, both.
Get yourself some dignity, stop having sex with him, and stop acting like a teenager over who is friends on social media.

@Cocomarine

Yes, both. Get yourself some dignity, stop having sex with him, and stop acting like a teenager over who is friends on social media.

Exactly this.

Was the event something that he was doing in his contact time, if so why does he need your opinion on it? He sounds like a pain in the arse but you need to back off and put boundaries in place. Don't answer calls or messages when its inconvenient and definitely don't sleep with him, he just wants to have his cake and eat it too.

He’s not going to start respecting you until you start respecting yourself.

Why are you be wasting your time on this loser?

FFS. So many threads on here tonight I want to change the name to dumbsnet. Some people seriously need to give their heads a wobble 🤦‍♀️

Time to grow up, op.

Stop pretending to be friends. Stop having sex with him. Stop bickering. Stop giving a shit what he says, thinks or does. Co-parent civilly and move on with your life.

Block him on social media. Focus on co-parenting. Stop sleeping together.

Grow up. Both of you.

Yes agree stop having sex him and properly co parent .

Sorry OP, you really need to grow up. You're a parent now and need to act like an adult for your kid. Stop having sex with him, your relationship is over. Stop answering calls unless it's important. Get parenting plans in place. And set some boundaries.

If you're unwilling to do any of the above, then this will be your life and you can really only complain to/blame yourself for it. Unfortunately your kid will suffer as well because they don't have the ability to remove themselves from this mess.

I stopped reading your post as soon as I read ‘we occasionally still sleep together’ and hit YABU. Focus on your child and forget the whole social media circus about blocking, friends etc - time to regain some dignity and self esteem. And FFS stop having sex with him.

What are you doing OP??

Stop sleeping with him, stop going anywhere with him and stop meting him halfway. He does fuck all, let him collect dc.

I think you sound a little crazy. You shouldn't still be having sex with him. If he's bothering while you're working or driving, you can just ignore it.

In answer to your question.
YES.

Oh god, grow up!!

Stop sleeping with your ex

Yes. Stop sleeping with him. Stop thinking of him as a friend. Yes it's good to get on amicably with the father of your child but don't let him cross boundaries/take advantage/manipulate you.

How old are you? I don’t mean to be rude but your post is very teenage. You have a child now. Stop sleeping with him. Get visitation organised and learn how to co-parent without getting involved in each other’s personal lives.

You need to raise your boundaries. If you have no self respect you cant expect any respect from anyone else.

If he is your ex treat him like an ex not a "friend" with benefits.