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Feel guilty about going out while ill

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beewritesx · 30/10/2021 18:59

Last week I developed a sore throat, fever, nausea, and tinnitus. It was my Dad's funeral on Friday so I rang my family who didn't want to rearrange the date and begged me not to give Track & Trace their details - they said that if Track & Trace contacted them, they wouldn't answer (two of them are unvaccinated). I couldn't face giving their names so I told myself I would probably be better by Friday and isolated at home too scared to take a test. Secretly, I hoped DH would take a test and settle the whole thing but I don't think he wanted to get involved.

Anyway, I took a test on Friday which was negative (as was DH's who had similar symptoms but less severe!) so so we went out and I told myself it was "just a cold".

I returned feeling so poorly, I struggled to breathe through coughing so much. I could barely get out of bed this morning and my lungs ache! I became scared and rang the out of hours who advised me to go to A&E. They confirmed I had a fever and said that the LTF tests aren't reliable. Well, I heard they had over 80% reliability and surely one of us would have tested positive? My friend who I saw the previous week, has had similar symptoms and is testing negative!

Anyway, whatever this thing is, I feel so guilty for potentially spreading it. I did feel better on Friday but now I feel worse.

Everyone seems to be poorly at the moment and a doctor on Twitter voiced their fear that there are new variants evading tests.

Anyway, the guilt has tainted this whole experience for me as I felt I couldn't give my father a proper send off. I'm also upset at my family and my own spinelessness.

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AlexaShutUp · 30/10/2021 19:03

Well, you shouldn't have gone out with symptoms but you know that already. It's done now and you can't change it.

Lateral flow tests aren't always accurate. All of mine were negative when I had covid.

I'm sorry about your dad. I hope you feel better soon.

YukoandHiro · 30/10/2021 19:03

You should have done a PCR a few days before the funeral to be sure.

Did the hospital test you today? Are you home? Do a PCR tomorrow if not.

mrsbyers · 30/10/2021 19:05

Variants aren’t evading tests , I work in that field so please rest assured

beewritesx · 30/10/2021 19:08

The hospital told me to go home and wait for their call (would take up to 4 hours). I'm still waiting.

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user1471457751 · 30/10/2021 19:15

It's unreasonable to expect family to rearrange a funeral because you thought you had covid but hadn't even tested

SpookyS · 30/10/2021 19:18

Why didn't you just do a PCR beforehand?

Djifunrsn · 30/10/2021 19:25

Forget about your family and leave them to the consequences of their actions: refusal to rearrange, not getting vaccinated etc.

Focus on getting yourself better. There are vicious illnesses about that aren’t Covid. We had one. Then we had Covid.

SlugRose · 30/10/2021 19:29

It was my Dad's funeral on Friday so I rang my family who didn't want to rearrange the date and begged me not to give Track & Trace their details I don't get why Test & Trace were even mentioned at this point. Why did they think you were going to give their contact details out when you hadn't even ordered a PCR test at this point.

SlugRose · 30/10/2021 19:31

Anyway, I took a test on Friday which was negative (as was DH's who had similar symptoms but less severe!) so so we went out and I told myself it was "just a cold". when you say you went out do you mean you went to your dad's funeral?

godmum56 · 30/10/2021 19:32

so you had symptoms but did an LFT? Is that right?

TotallySuper · 30/10/2021 19:32

So have you sorted a PCR test now then?? If not then YABU.

Hankunamatata · 30/10/2021 19:33

You have symptoms, you get a pcr test.

SlugRose · 30/10/2021 19:35

I'm sorry you have had to deal with the loss of your father and all this covid stress too Flowers

DreamerSeven · 30/10/2021 19:36

If you’re looking for sympathy for feeling guilty, I’m afraid this might not be the best place to get it. Your post is confusing but it sounds like you should have got a PCR test before your dad’s funeral but you didn’t?

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