Sibling birthday gifts??

[PlasticDinosaur]

It's my daughter's first birthday tomorrow. I'm sat in the spare room wrapping gifts from our lovely friends and family - I don't know why noone wrapped but not bothered by it.

Over half of them have included 'a little something' for her big brother. Often the little something is physically bigger and more expensive than what they bought her.

I would like to stress that overall I'm just grateful that people were so kind to think of us. But I find this sibling gift thing SO weird! I wouldn't think to get my DS (3) a gift for my DDs birthday, I know he will likely get jealous but I'm happy to explain, reassure and distract.

Even if I decided to get him something on her birthday it strikes me as a parent thing? He's got about eight gifts here.. I'd never think to buy something for the birthday girls sibling.

AIBU to label them from Santa and stick them in a cupboard

I agree op. My dad thinks its cruel to buy one grandchild a birthday present and nothing for the others. How bizarre.

They must learn that it's not always about them. !

Definitely wrap them up for xmas!

How bizarre! I have never come across this before.

In my experience it is normal to buy an older sibling a little present when you bring presents for a new baby - dressed up as "Congratulations you are a big brother/sister" But beyond that - absolutely not.

I would feign innocence and say I thought the presents were for the older siblings birthday/Christmas.

I am going against the grain here. I usually would buy the sibling something. Why create jealousy and bad feeling between the kids which can be avoided with a small cheapy gift? Even just a pack of colouring pencils and book? I don't think it should be a big present and plenty of time to learn it's not all about you in the future but when they are this little, I would.

I would have said yanbu until I saw the ages. Tbh at that 3 yo knows more what’s going on than 1 yo - who lets face it has no idea!

I wouldn’t buy my 8 yo something on my 13 yo’s birthday- which happens to be today! And vice versa of course. When he was that 3-5 age I might have.

It wouldn’t upset me if someone else did it at any age though.

Urgh my friend did this. Even when 1 dc lost a tooth the other night one also got money. As adults they hate each other!! Zero relationship..
Your dc are allowed 1 day to be about them and them alone.. It really won't damage the sibling!!
Ime.

Utterly bizarre, why isn't it ok to just say to a child it's not your turn today?? Definitely wrap them up either for Christmas or their birthday.

I have done this in the past but only a very small token gift for the sibling like a £1 box of Maltesers for example.
Only because as a child l used to hate my sister's birthday and just knowing someone had thought of me would have been lovely.
Only up to age 7 or 8 though, after that nah !

100% let them be from Santa