To not want to be ignored?

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Have previously posted here and got great support, so I’m back. Emotionally abusive husband has been sent divorce papers. He are still living in the same house with the DC and he won’t acknowledge my existence (not a huge surprise as being given the silent treatment has long been an issue). He will only communicate by email (about e.g. who is picking DC up from nursery). I’m so worried about the effect this on our DC. I stupidity thought maybe he would be civil for the children. And I feel so trapped here. No real AIBU i support, just looking for some support so I don’t crack.

Sorry to hear you're going through this. It is possible to apply for an occupation order for emotional abuse, but I don't know if that would apply in your case and you'd need to seek advice first...

rightsofwomen.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/guide-to-domestic-violence-housing-and-homelessness.pdf

Who owns the house/is on the lease?

For everyone’s sake separating properly needs to be first priority. Have you had legal advice?

If he’s abusive then it’s not a bad thing that he will only communicate by email. It’s often recommended so that there’s no space for further abuse and so that there’s a paper trail of all communication. It must be horrible feeling so cut off from your children though.

House is owned jointly. I would like to buy him out, which I can afford to do. He won’t have a conversation about it though, aside from when I told him I wanted to separate he said I would have to leave and he would stay with the kids because is all my fault and I have broken up the family.

[quote emptyempire]Sorry to hear you're going through this. It is possible to apply for an occupation order for emotional abuse, but I don't know if that would apply in your case and you'd need to seek advice first...

rightsofwomen.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/guide-to-domestic-violence-housing-and-homelessness.pdf[/quote]
I really want to avoid this route because I’m not sure I’ll be believed/its serious enough and my husband has accused me of abusing him (after a lot of therapy I don’t think he’a right, but I can’t face having to defend myself in court). I would just like to me able to talk about a way forward.

That's understandable. If you can't get him out, then I think you've got to do your best to strong grey rock him, keep putting one foot in front of the other and seek solace in therapy and friendships until you're through it. Good luck OP