To turn down weight loss surgery

[Fatgirlslimgirl]

Name change for this.

I’ve gotten to the point where my weight is dramatically effecting my life.
I feel depressed and out of control.

My BMI is 43 and I’m 18 and a half stone :(

I have some major issues with food, I binge and generally eat rubbish.
I’m always so exhausted and I know it’s down to my extremely poor diet.

I can either be 100% healthy or 100% unhealthy.
There is no inbetween.

I just cannot seem to control my weight and at this rate I will just keep getting bigger and bigger.

I’ve tried Slimming Groups, Calorie counting, various apps, but have little success.

I contacted my Gp in hope that they could offer me some support with my out of control eating.

I was referred to a 12 week programme of exercise and healthy eating and as long as this is maintained for a set period, then I will be referred for weight loss surgery.

I didn’t ask for this and it’s really not something I want.

I don’t see how having surgery is going to help my mindset with food.

I’m out of control and surgery isn’t going to help that.

Today so far, I’ve eaten - (and yes I’m aware this is terribly bad)

2 slices Wholemeal toast
6” Subway (chicken and bacon) on Italian bread
1 pack of dorritos
3 chocolate cookies
Handful of chocolate buttons

I have such an overwhelming need to binge.

Am I being stupid turning down the weight loss surgery? Should I just go for it?

One of the things you won't realise is that it's not JUST removing 90% of your stomach so you're less hungry it's the removal of GHRELIN - the hunger producing chemical

I've not been hungry ever since having my stomach removed - I forgot to eat til 2pm yesterday (I felt hungry by then)

And since my last meal was 5pm the day before that's 21 hours without food

So, Google ghrelin

If you have Instagram, look up sophiegotsleeved. She’s so inspiring!

My dietician suggested I self refer for CBT for binge eating. I just googled it for my area and they called me and sorted me out a treatment plan. Did not need to go through GP at all so that might be worth a try.

Four years ago my friend had surgery after a 2 year process which included counselling. She lost a lot of weight and was a born again healthy eater, sadly more than three quarters of the weight she lost has gone back on. I really thought it was going to work long term for her.

Hi OP.
I have a friend who binged a lot. She has gastric surgery and then would find herself melting tubs of ice cream to sip on all day. She lost weight as her stomach was so tiny/ she would be sick easily. But the problem was still there. It sounds as though you recognise that you need help with your disordered eating.. is private therapy an option before the huge step of surgery?

If you eat mindlessly then it won’t work forever
There is normally what is called the golden period when you lose a lot of weight and maintain it

Generally this is for two years or so
After that it’s down to you
Your hunger will return and if you eat how you did before you will put it back on
Men seem to be more successful than women in keeping the weight off
Also if you are very overweight many women find that the lose saggy skin is actually worse than being overweight and need more expensive surgery to get rid of the lose skin