Just came back from a rather tense break away - Parents, my sister and our 5 kids all under one roof.
My sister has form for being volatile - she shouts people down a lot. My mum is beyond obsessed with her grandkids - adores them, but takes over, undermines me constantly, stuffs chocolate and sweets in their mouths at any opportunity, excessive Birthday/Christmas gifts. She has little going on her life since retiring so puts a lot of focus on them. She's pretty mean to my dad too - shuts him down, passive aggressive comments all the time, can be quite rude. In turn, he can be quite grumpy at times, but he and I are very tight. I'm no angel, but generally take a back seat where I can, try and stick up for my dad against my mum - but it gets pretty toxic, as you can imagine. When we are harmonious, we are a very tight family.
Holiday I got a bit over excited and tipsy, ended up sloshing some red wine around when dancing with kids. Bad I know. Sister went BALLISTIC, calling me disrespectful etc, shouting so much at me in front of kids. Not a great start but next morning, sort of ok. Clashed with my mum about the amount of sweets she kept giving my kids - she mimicked me, called me a snob etc.
I stuck up for my dad at one point, and she told me to mind my own business.
This sort of mean behaviour happens a lot, especially when the children are around - I feel awful after being around them, really questioning my character.
AIBU to not want to go way with them again/visit as much - despite how much my children ADORE them all, especially their cousins? Or any tips on how to avoid the conflicts?