Shoul I keep toddler at home?

[twoundertwo3]

My DD (2yo) attends nursery 3 full days a week. Since starting (a year ago ) she has had every virus possible and a constant cough. I swear I can't remember the last time she didn't have a cough.
We've just had a second DD born prematurely. I told my DH that I would like to keep DD1 at home and away from nursery for a few months as I'm really scared she's going to bring home all sorts of viruses and our newborn will catch it. DH says IABU and it's not fair for our DD1 to be stuck at home and have her 'social life ' taken away just because of our new DD
The question is .. AIBU for wanting to take her out of nursery in order to protect our newborn DD?

I would send her.

Your husband is right. It’s tough having a toddler and newborn especially in autumn/winter with limited options for getting out.

I would keep your dd at nursery if you can afford it!

I would keep the toddler in nursery. Maybe take a fortnight out as you would for a holiday, but definitely not a couple of months. Winter is rubbish for toddlers indoors all the time and you do not want to be standing outside in cold parks with the newborn all winter.

I took DS out of nursery for the 6 months after baby was born just to try and reduce risk of illnesses being bought home

I would definitely send her at least 2 days a week. I had a 2 year gap and sent the toddler in 3 days. She was used to being busy at nursery and the days at home with us were hard to fill - we went out a lot or had friends over. The days are long with a toddler especially in the winter, and to keep her entertained you'd probably end up taking her to germy indoor places anyway!

My DC2 was born at 35 weeks too. Whilst on maternity leave, money was a lot tighter so we couldn't afford to send DC1 to the childminder (one near where I worked as a reasonably long commute) & the additional fuel for additional journeys. Like your DC1, mine was forever ill with something or other. But, having said all that if I could have sent DC1 to childcare I think I still would have. It's exhausting enough having a newborn without adding a demanding toddler to the mix aswell.

Personally I wouldn't stop sending her. Having a new sibling can be quite unsettling and then removing her from nursery and changing everything could cause more problems.

My dc2 was born 38 weeks but had quite significant respiratory issues and spent time in scbu. I was so careful about him being around anyone that might pass on illnesses because we didn't know if there were any lasting effects or how severe they would be.
My dd carried on as normal- she was receptive

*reception age and did a few clubs, had every big possible that winter! But dc2 didn't get anything other than a light sniffle.

When lockdown hit dd was at home and absolutely hated the baby (who was 3m at the time). She was miserable and it caused some really difficult behaviour that we are still dealing with.

I think keeping things as normal as possible for the older dc is better for them.

Against the grain but I would take her out for the winter months.

It's no fun trying to care for a poorly toddler whilst looking after a newborn aside from the fact that she'll be bringing viruses home.

Rsv is so dangerous for prem babies, I would minimise the risk as much as possible.

I was just wondering if you took your little one to nursery? I have a 6 week old baby and I’m worried about him getting RSV as it seems really bad this winter. My 2 and half year old usually goes to nursery for 2 hours everyday but I have kept her off until now but I’m starting to feel bad and like she should attend and she is getting bored at home, I feel as if I’m spiting with 2 year old her being at home and being bored but also spiting my newborn if I send her as he may become poorly.

Hi.
We ended up sending her as DH felt it wasn't fair to keep her at home when she could be having fun at nursery. Plus I felt like she was constantly waiting for me to have 30 mins to play etc.
So far so good. DD1 has the standard constant cough & cold but hasn't affected the baby 😊

I just keep thinking that anyone could spread a virus. We have my mum & mother in law helping a little so they could bring viruses in the house even if I was to keep DD1 at home 😅 so decided that it was best to carry on with nursery