Near miss or am I being silly?

[penguinparty00]

Came out of Morrisons last night at about 9.30 the store was dead they had turned the lights in store to the low lightning to let everyone know it was closing, it was so dark and miserable with rain. Apart from a really drunk guy in Morrisons there was no one around. Walking back to the car which is parked about 4/5 rows away from the store, I was carrying (juggling trying not to drop) about 10 things because as per I forgot the bloody bag! Got to the car plonked myself down and threw everything onto the passengers seat, as I look up a man on a bike is driving so slow next to my window and is slow enough for us to look at each other straight in the face, something about this really freaked me out because instinctively I put the door lock on and quickly put keys in ignition to drive, he disappeared off, so I thought, so I quickly started to reverse to drive away and the parking sensors were going mad I looked in the mirror and the guy on the bike had rode around the back of the car and was coming up the passengers side he was so close he would of been touching the car with his arms so I quickly reversed he was practically at the passengers door and I reversed back my side mirror would probably of been touching him at this point, he then rode to the front of the car looked at me again and rode off as he did he put something in his pocket, I was shaking and for some reason this really but the shitters up me and I don't know why. There was absolutely and honestly no logical reason he would go behind or round the car because there was no where else to go. I left the store really freaked and it keeps playing on my mind as to what reasons he would possibly be doing that and all I can think is wanting to steal purse/ something bad! As for the putting something in his pocket it could of been really innocent like a phone but then my unlogical scared mind was thinking was it something more. I don't really know why I'm posting apart from it's on my mind and I can't shake the bad feeling.

You did the right thing locking your doors. I lock mine the second I close the door. DHs car has auto locking, the car has to move before they lock and I always manually lock those too.

The only other thing is that you dropped something, but if you aren't missing anything then yep very dodgy!

why would you ride so close behind the only car

I hadn’t realised yours was the only car. I was envisioning some other cars in the car park, which is usually the case here when a shop has just shut … staff members cars, people in cars waiting to pick up staff members etc. In which case I assumed he could have just been circling around the car park waiting for someone.

This is why I said I do believe you need to trust your instincts so thanks for taking my comment the right way. Yes, if yours was the only car in a completely empty car park then that is very odd behaviour on his part.

[quote FlorenceNightshade]@penguinparty00 hugs to you!
I had something happen to me a bit like that and I’ve always wondered if I was overthinking it or if I avoided something nasty!
I was getting on the bus and this guy was so close behind me he was practically pressed up against me! I had my purse open and I had quite a few bank notes as was going to hairdresser and they didn’t have a card machine at the time. I just got the feeling he had seen the cash and would have grabbed it if someone hadn’t joined the bus queue behind him.
So we get on and I sit in my usual spot in the middle, next to the emergency exit door and in the drivers line of sight (taught this as a child!) and the bus usually empties by a certain stop but I notice this guy is still on. I’m genuinely not sure where the idea for this came from but I waited until the last possible second to ring the bell for my stop and wouldn’t you know he gets up and hurried forward too. The bus stops and I turn to him and say “oops I pressed to early let me get out of your way” and he had no real choice but to get off. I got off at the next stop and quickly took the most public route to the salon and I did see him at a distance near where I would normally have walked so practically ran the rest of the way.
Got to the salon all flustered and when I told the girls what happened I felt so stupid! Like it could have been a coincidence and I was panicking for nothing but they were so sweet and sadly they all had a story to tell too.
Basically I think we pick up on much more than we realise and should trust our instincts always![/quote]
What a great tactic! and quick thinking. I'm going to share that with my DC . My DC always used to get into the most empty carriage on the train (we are a starter station) and got harrassed one day, since then all of us always make sure there's plenty of different people in the carriage.

@penguinparty00 I think you protected yourself well. and I do think you should report it to the police or the store. It might well be that they've had similar reports and this might help them.
It is strange that he had to move so close to your car in an entirely empty car park.

I think our instincts are rarely wrong. We’ve got prey instincts and sadly there’s no reason for them to die-out just yet.

I once thought a guy walking in front of me was being shady (it was dark, I was 15yrs old, he kept turning around). Sure enough, as he approached a side road he turned left down it, waited until I crossed over then turned and started walking behind me. I ran into a co-op and stayed there for ages. Saw him waiting under the bridge ahead so ran back in the opposite direction.

sorry OP, just read your update. I think you handled a scarey situation very well. x

@21stDentistryGirl how frightening for you! I’m glad there was an open shop nearby. It makes me so mad that practically every woman has a story like this

Always trust those ‘spidey ’ senses. They are picking up signs that keep you safe.