To be amazed at the entitlement?

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I advertised a toy on FB. In pristine condition for £1 (would normally sell new for £8).

Someone living in a very wealthy area has asked me to deliver the toy to them when they know it's a 15 mile round trip. They don't want to know now that I've suggested a few pounds delivery charge for petrol and my time. It would still make the toy half of what it would cost in the shops.

AIBU to be flabbergasted at how some people expect the world to owe them something when they're already getting an amazing deal?

They seem really miffed at my suggestion of a delivery charge. Why on earth would I deliver something for £1 when it would cost me more than that in petrol let alone my time? CF!!! I can't believe the gall of some people.

@AudTheDeepMinded
For this exact reason I now only tell buyers a slightly closer, but still general area of where they'll need to go. I tell them I won't give them my exact address until they message to say they've set off to collect.

I sold some furniture on Gumtree a few weeks ago. Guy came round, loaded it into his car and turned around and said 'that's great, bye then'.
I said aren't you going to pay then? He mumbled something about he thought it was free and I said it definitely wasn't. He offered to take it anyway then do a bank transfer as he had no cash on him which I politely declined. CF had his child with him otherwise I wouldn't have been so polite. Still it was really awkward as he slowly unloaded it from his car and carried it back into my flat.

I know someone like this. Her entire life is delivered. She hasn’t been to a shop for years (even pre pandemic).

Are you on your local nextdoor site, might be worth trying to sell stuff through that and at least your customers will be locals.

My Dh sold a motorbike. The buyer turned up and wanted to pay 300 quid less than the agreed price.

Dh said no, buyer then went ‘to call wife who said he should pay the full price’

Cheeky fucker!

Oh it's like cheeky fuckers are us on those things.

My favourite on our local selling page was a woman who wanted a free toaster, and could you please deliver (to what turned out to be the naice village across the valley). Two people were daft enough to respond to her initial enquiry, to be asked if they could deliver, and one was turned down as she couldn't deliver until Saturday "but my son wants his toast tomorrow". This woman was on a bus route to the local town with supermarkets, Wilkos etc. if she'd needed a toaster that urgently. Never met anyone since who had such an urgent need for a toaster, they needed someone to drive one over now.

Advert: Collection only.
Every fucker: hi can you deliver?

Annoying!

@PineappleWilson that reminds me of the time I was selling a BBQ, in the winter. A guy messaged me saying he needed it urgently so would come that night (Fri) at 11pm when he finished work. I said that wasn't convenient, he could come any time Saturday or Sunday but 11pm was too late. He was insistent that he needed it super urgently, and eventually agreed to finish work early and come at 10pm. He screeched up outside, ran to the door, shoved the money at me, threw the BBQ in the car and drove off at top speed. I was so intrigued as to what he could possibly have needed it for at 11pm on a winters night.

The ones that piss me off is the ones assume you are free every hour of the day, I was once messaged by someone at 11pm, asking if it was still available, I was awake so replied yes.

They then asked if they could come round now, as in 11pm at night?! Madness. I told them no. Was told I am rude. Baffled.

I posted a horse bridle part on FBMP for £20.

A bloke was interested and I requested payment via Friends and Family.
He only wanted to pay via Business (more protection for him, fair enough) but got his hair off when I refused, as it would cost me FBMP charges. After mansplaining to me that I would have to pay charges had I listed it on ebay, I told him it was choice to buy or not.

He didn’t bother, so I relisted it for £35 via Business to take account of the charges and it sold straight away - not to him though. Ended up making a small profit in the end. 🙂

@PineappleWilson

My favourite on our local selling page was a woman who wanted a free toaster, and could you please deliver (to what turned out to be the naice village across the valley). Two people were daft enough to respond to her initial enquiry, to be asked if they could deliver, and one was turned down as she couldn't deliver until Saturday "but my son wants his toast tomorrow". This woman was on a bus route to the local town with supermarkets, Wilkos etc. if she'd needed a toaster that urgently. Never met anyone since who had such an urgent need for a toaster, they needed someone to drive one over now.

Did she not have a grill?

I offered a free kids bike. Hardly used. I said tyre might need pumping and a good clean. Had wiped it . I got a message to say they would have it but wanted it in perfect condition and delivered on a specific night when she was home as she didnt like driving. Said no. They said wld break their kids heart if I didnt. In end I did deliver it to someone as I was in their area but they were polite when asked and grateful and never asked me to deliver it. Only when she told me address so I cld give directions realised was going near there. When I arrived she had made me some scones to take away too.

My dd sold some of her clothes recently, she wanted some new jeans, so I said as she has no shortage (and its a want, not a need) that she needs to sell some other clothes to raise the money for new ones. Which I think is fair. So she takes ages photographing each item, all different angles and lists each item. But for very little as she just wanted them gone so that she could get the money to have the new jeans by the following week.

There were about 20 items (all branded) and one of them was a pair of trainers (also branded) which cost a fortune new, but she didn't really wear them much as they hurt her foot. If they were worn 5 times it was a lot. Not in UK, so converted she was asking about 5 pounds for a 50+ pounds pair a nearly new shoes. Woman replies straight away and wants to buy the shoes. Due to where we live we have to do courier transport to the buyer and get electronic payment. So the woman says she wants them, and pays the money. DD packs up the shoes really well, including in the original box and sends of via the courier to the woman. Dd gets a message the next day and the woman says she wants a refund as the shoes are not as DD stated. . Thankfully she took pics and resent them to this woman, who then sent pics back of one shoe with a sharpie pen mark on the side. She then says its disgraceful DD would sell something like this and she wanted her money back, they were not worth the money she has asked, started to threaten dd etc. I was at work and didn't know any of this, DD had got such a fright and refunded her, then asked her to sent the shoes back. Of course she didnt, and DD was left with no shoes and no money. About a month later DD sees the same shoes (no sharpie mark on the side) being sold for equivalent of 40 pounds.

DD was devastated, and the whole process of selling off her things was so bloody stressful. She sold to about 15 people, 10 of them I would say were really nice, but a handful were just awful.

She did manage to get enough together to buy the jeans she wanted to, but we both said, never again.

She is a teenager so not worldly wise, and was scammed. That I suppose is a life lesson, but I do wonder how some people sleep at night. The woman buying knew she was just a young girl as they had been chatting on messenger re the sale.

i'm doing it wrong!
The few times I've collected things advertised on freecycle, I either take a small thank you gift (chocolate etc) or send similar by Amazon.

I have dellivered stuff that I've given away if it's bulky, because I live inside the congestion zone, but not if people demand that I do.

I did block the rude woman that was supposed to be collecting, called me from about a mile away an hour after she was supposed to collect and asked me to go to where she was with the item.
I did, then drove her back to Kings Cross; she asked, but no, I wasn't going to drive her home to NW London, and let her keep the carry bag I'd put it in because she hadn't bought anything to transport a fairly bulky item. (Only an Ikea bag, but they're a pain to get hold of replacement ones)
She called three weeks later demanding a refund because I hadn't given her the opportunity to inspect the item

@cobblers123

The part that really does annoy me is when I say I will only give my address once they confirm on the day that they will definitely be collecting when they say they will.

Then they just disappear or cancel ... tossers!

I try to give a very good indication of exactly where in town I am then text them the precise address 30 mins before collection time.

Another thing that is often worth doing is insist on a quick chat first - if someone can't be bothered to phone you for one minute so you can explain the parking situation and that you are not negotiating the price then why the hell should you give them your address.

@50ShadesOfCatholic

Also wondering what a "lounge" is.

I'm assuming a lounge suite? As in sofa and two armchairs?

Also possibly short for a lounge set, outdoor seating)

@IsDaveThere

In fact, selling for £1 wouldn't even be worth my time and effort posting it in the first place.

You clearly have no idea how financially hard life is for some at the moment.

Believe me - you could put the Crown Jewels up for a quid, and some bugger would still try to knock you down to 50p and demand delivery.

I just take stuff to the charity shop now, or give it to someone I now.

@Strugglingtodomybest

I'm shocked by the number of posters who don't have any idea how lucky they are not to need £1 and who are quite happy to tell the OP that even after she's pointed out why she needs it.

The buyer CF stories no longer shock me though!

Yes, you would think that it was obvious that plenty of people genuinely need that extra little bit just to get by. I've been there, and I would have felt so much worse if some patronizing arsehole had sneered at me for wanting to bother charging £1. As if it isn't bad enough to be short of money in the first place, some people think that what's really needed is some salt in the wound.

Sold a bunch of DS toys - some large, some small - for varying prices, some as low as £2 (the people complaining about £1 price - fact is if you have 15 items to sell that £15 can turn into something nice and new for your child, and in the process you have decluttered!).

I ended up with ~£70 which allowed DS to pick something new and shiny from Smyths. But my god what an effort - people asking to hold it, saying they will get their DP to come the next day etc. I was constantly having to chase if they still want it, when they would come. Generally refused to give out my address until I had confirmation they were about to depart - which lead to a lot of would-be buyers never responding again.

On the other hand one of the things I sold was a very old (90s/early 00s?) ELC Hospital themed house and figures type thing. Had a polite message from a lady quite some distance away about their toddler being due a long stay in hospital soon and wanting some relevant toys to prepare. Was happy to organise a Yodel delivery for me (I had to box and take to a local shop to print off the sticker) and then sent me a lovely thank you when it arrived.

Also why are so many people scared to drive to a house and knock at a door? So many getting partners, relatives, even kids to knock at the door and do the exchange for them and I can see them sat in the car behind. I understand anxiety is a thing, but if that's the common reason, seems like FBMP has a lot of them.

@IsDaveThere

In fact, selling for £1 wouldn't even be worth my time and effort posting it in the first place.

Well, it’s not worth Bill Gates’ time to pick up a dropped $100 note from the ground but that’s just as irrelevant as you not finding it worth posting a £1 item.

Come back and post when you’re Bill Gates

I gave away a sofa once as we’d bought a new one. Lady turned up to collect with a big sob story about how she’s setting up in a new flat with absolutely no possessions after a bad divorce. She then asked of we wanted to give anything else away and craned her neck around and asked if we’d be giving our lamps away! Said they’d match the sofa well and she’d like a lamp.