To write all my feelings down to get them out of my head?

[troobleflooble]

Might sound a bit weird but here goes! 😂

I had a dream last night about my ex. In it, I had the chance to finally confront him about all the shit he put my through and tell him exactly what I thought of him and what a terrible person he is. I never had the chance to do this in real life because he ghosted me when I found out he'd got the woman he'd been cheating on me with pregnant and I haven't seen or spoken to him since.

It actually felt really good and quite relieving to say everything I've been holding in all this time. I didn't realise I was still so angry about everything.

I am in a new relationship with a wonderful man and I have absolutely no desire to meet or contact my ex in any way to say all of this, it would purely be in a letter than wouldn't be read. Part of me really wants to to try and get some 'closure' and really put it behind me, another part thinks it's stupid and pointless!

Has anyone done similar? Did it help?

Get a notebook. Write as much as you like, to whom you like. It's a very effective strategy.

Definitely write it all down. A letter addressed to him is more powerful I find than filling a notebook. Tell him exactly how awful he was and what an utterly shit partner he was to you.
As an added bonus, when you’ve got it out of your system, chuck it on the fire on bonfire night.
Consider the chapter closed. Raise glass of wine.

I find this really helpful. For me, once I have written it all down its out of my head and I can process things more logically. Go for it, see if it helps you

not weird. why would it be weird?

a lot of people do this, often as part of therapy.

it's immensely helpful, cathartic even. and not just with feelings, I regularly do a "brain dump" which is writing lists of all the things I have to/want to/need to do.

it's immensely helpful, cathartic even. and not just with feelings, I regularly do a "brain dump" which is writing lists of all the things I have to/want to/need to do.

Yes, I do this regularly and it helps me to think straight seeing things written down. Bit like a mind purge.

It's used a lot on a podcast I listen to. Apparently it moves the issue from one part of the brain to another where it can be processed (or something along those lines!)

It's most definitely a thing. There is a lot of research that shows that physically writing things down is a really effective way of getting things out of your head. It helps get out your emotions and to process some of them and make sense of it, much more so than just thinking the thoughts. You don't have to make it fancy, or show it to anyone, or even keep it, just get it out.