To not know what to do about this friendship

[Kitchendisco21]

I have a long term friend who I have posted on here about before. She was childless for years and a few years ago had a massive go at me for essentially putting my kids before her. She gave me this long list of my misdemeanours including:

• making new mum friends, cancelling a couple of nights out when my kids were young, not being able to speak to her when she would ring during kids mealtimes, not being ‘available’ enough to her (because I had 2 kids)- she was critical of my parenting, my working life etc.

Anyway, now she has a baby and unsurprisingly the world revolves around it and I am now being criticised for not coming to visit or for making enough effort with her baby. She is awkward when I try to arrange to meet up. Can’t be indoors, can’t be in a busy place, can’t travel in a car, can’t be between 11- 2 cos of naps etc etc.
I have really tried to see the baby but I also work full time, am busy with my own family life.

Aibu to feel like I can’t win- it’s made me feel rubbish and I just want to walk away from the friendship actually.

I've called time on a few friendships this year. And had the same done to me. Funny when you do how new friends appear, who are more in sync with you.

Friendships don't have to be a lifelong commitment.

I've no regrets.

Yanbu, she sounds incredibly hard-work OP and selfish. I can see why you feel you have had enough

I'd walk away, she doesn't sound like a friend.

I can’t see why you’ve stuck with her all this time TBH.

She sounds very self centered, she's the main character and your the support type. Leave her to it

She sounds exhausting! Gradually phase out the friendship, OP.

I’d send her a copy of the list she sent you and see what she has to say about it now.

This isn’t a friendship. forget her and see your other nicer friends.

It’s step back form this, it doesn’t sound like a two way friendship.

@Kitchendisco21

She sounds incredibly draining 🤦🏻‍♀️

I would just keep your distance if it was me I think she doesn't sound a very good friend

@Yummypumpkin

I've called time on a few friendships this year. And had the same done to me. Funny when you do how new friends appear, who are more in sync with you.

Friendships don't have to be a lifelong commitment.

I've no regrets.

@Yummypumpkin thanks for your words. I think I just lost a friend over something that I had not control about and been thinking lately how other people have appeared in my life. They might not be as good friends as others but are kind of filling the hole this person left

@Yummypumpkin yes, I do agree with you. I think sometimes you have to let go to let new people come in but it’s hard in the interim and can feel lonely. But this friendship isn’t making me happy

Op I think you need to walk away I had to walk away from a friendship due to it being toxic it's so hard when you have been friends a long time

Get rid and be glad. Sounds like a right pain. Too much admin.

Dump her. She's self absorbed and selfish. That's not a friend.

I think I remember you writing about her. Ditch her, she's self absorbed, entitled and makes you feel like shit.

I have zero friends that are like that, I did once have a few friends in a group that would get funny by me doing stuff with other friends but I removed myself from that group. Can't stand people like this.