My son turns 13 tomorrow. Officially a teenager (where does the time go)
We were young parents. I was 17, his dad 19.
His dad works away but told DS1 he finishes work Wednesday night (so today) DS1 said "oh are you coming to my party?" (Little get together with family) and his dad has told him that he can't be bothered to travel all that way and he wants a day to relax so he won't see him now until the weekend.
DS1 was upset. Imagine telling your child you'd rather spend his birthday in a hotel than be there for his party.
Now he's just messaged me to say he doesn't get paid until next week and can I give DS £50 off him for his birthday.
I've told him no. I'm not doing that. He should have sorted DSs birthday out when he last got paid, knowing he wouldn't get paid again until after his birthday. Its not my job to pay for my ex who simply can't be bothered with his own child.
So AIBU to 1. Tell him no and leave DS without a gift from his dad on his birthday?
And 2. To feel so angry and hurt for DS who now feels like his dad doesn't give a shit.
Ex is making me out to be the bad one saying I'm letting DS down by not giving him any money. (FWIW I've bought DS a new bike, a large character from his favourite manga and a £70 video game, plus giving him some money into his bank)