14 year olds in love

[twoblueskies]

My teenage daughter met a lad through friends and they have become inseparable in 8 weeks . They messages daily wanting to talk and I’ve seen the messages . I’m shocked at the passion between them , really deep conversations ( he has a difficult home life ) .
They go out for walks , shopping and he’s been too our house . He’s v polite , says he wants to make a good impression because he has never met a girl as “impressive “ as her .
She loves the attention but continues to be flirty with other boys which he hates .
The PDA is alarming I often tell them to leave door open , not allowed in bedroom although he has now asked if he can sleep over sometimes . He sends messages saying he wants to hold her forever . They both have hickeys and talk about his erections in messages .
Do I put her on birth control ?

Pregnancy, STIs, and coerced sexual behavioural are the biggest risks right now.

The best you can do is educate and empower your daughter - if they want to find a way to have sex, they will.

It is her body and her decision but only being 14 means her brain isn't developed to understand the ramifications and outcomes of starting to have sex. I'm surprised she is being so open with you, this may be an indication that she is not ready?

I had a v intense relationship at that age, and lost my virginity then too. My only regret was taking hormonal birth control before my body had even finished developing. With my own daughter as soon as she starts her period I will encourage her to teach with thermometer and hope to god it becomes as natural as brushing her teeth in the morning.

@Jazzles2021

I had a v intense relationship at that age, and lost my virginity then too. My only regret was taking hormonal birth control before my body had even finished developing. With my own daughter as soon as she starts her period I will encourage her to teach with thermometer and hope to god it becomes as natural as brushing her teeth in the morning.

Track* not teach.

Also, sorry not saying your daughter should be having sex at all just that it's not always the end of the world! I'm actually still friends with my guy and so glad all that stuff happened with someone who cared about me!

@Jazzles2021

I had a v intense relationship at that age, and lost my virginity then too. My only regret was taking hormonal birth control before my body had even finished developing. With my own daughter as soon as she starts her period I will encourage her to teach with thermometer and hope to god it becomes as natural as brushing her teeth in the morning.

Can you really trust a girl that young to apply the calendar/basal temperature method correctly? It's tricky and not very effective for grown women, let alone teens who've just started menstruating and are probably not regular.

I understand your reluctance about hormones, but how about a copper coil?

Relying on natural family planning is a recipe for disaster if you ask me.

@JudgementalCactus That's true, hadn't thought about the copper coil. That's a good option if it suits her.

I think if it's something they start young then I would hope for it to become habit as a way of getting to know their bodies/cycles. I wouldn't recommend it as the only form of contraception for sure, I would always push condoms as it's the only thing to prevent STIs.